Your methods to cope withdepression ?

Hallo all.

Apologies for the "crow" status - I'd rather not post under my proper account at this time.

I have been "fighting" with depression for most of the year now.

First off, it's nothing suicidal. It's this low feeling of ongoing "flatness" and tiredness (all the time) whilst trying to deal (unsuccessfully) with a number of issues:
- problems in a relationship (me). I've had nothing but support but it's not been easy and I'm now starting to feel selfish for this as I am dragging the OH down. She's in tears most days now at some point.
- Employment/financial situation is not great. Currently I don't seem to be able to do a lot to fix this. Trying to plan/think ahead results in just foggy thinking and no real clarity of thought.
- I've seen a therapist, at vast expense, not convinced it is the right one for me.
- Fizz. I am doing this and previously it did seem to counter any lows I had. At this time all it does is seem to offer a couple of hours of break from feeling flat through simply not trying to fall over from physical exertion! The "flat" returns after the gym.
- Talking. I'm my own worst enemy but I can feel myself distancing myself from friends. Trying not to, but failing. It's getting tiring burdening other people with my issues (he says, talking to strangers on a website...)
- Medication - I am terrified of medication and any long term effects/reliance. I've felt low before and beaten it, or so I thought. Maybe feeling like this now means I haven't?

I know I'm doing the right thing with the exercise, but is there a forum/chat where one can talk anonymously? The chat rooms I've found for people with depression are not right for me. Also, can anyone advise me (in general) if a short-term prescription really can help get ones head over the parapet enough to get some clear thinking.

Thank you all in advance.
Testosterone levels? Might be worth getting it checked.
 
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See your doctor. Get a full blood work up done to eliminate any physical cause in the first instance. Keep the exercise going and eat well if you can.
 

Mrsheeny

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One thing that would guarantee you felt better is giving something back. For instance, coach a sports team, help out at the local hospital, go out litter picking around your area, etc.

Other than that eat healthy, exersize and socialise (in person not online), bury or deal with any skeletons and face up to your demons but don’t expect to beat them, the win wont be forever, one day it’ll creep back up on you, you just have to be ready with the tools to fend the black dog off for a few more hours/days/months/years.

I don’t know about the medication side, we had a talk from an ex rugby player called Danny Sculthorpe once who spoke of his battle and he said the tablets levelled him out and worked. In fact, check out ‘State of Mind’ or Danny Scunthorpe I not twitter or YouTube or google, he’s done some fantastic work with regards depression etc for the rugby league world which puts every other sport to shame. Most large companies hire Danny to come in and gives talks, I’m surprised the army have t invited him in yet, anyway, check him out.

State of Mind I think was set up after Terry Newton, a superb player who committed suicide shortly after hanging up his boots. From there it’s gone on the spread the word in the RL community, so check them out.
 
Doctor's appointment has been booked (after a couple of deep breaths). I'll get the tests/blood work done and take it from there.

To those who have taken the time, thank you all very much for replying. It's really appreciated.
 
Doctor's appointment has been booked (after a couple of deep breaths). I'll get the tests/blood work done and take it from there.

To those who have taken the time, thank you all very much for replying. It's really appreciated.
Well done you. That was a difficult thing for you to do it would seem and is your first step to getting things sorted.
 

StBob072

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Well done you. That was a difficult thing for you to do it would seem and is your first step to getting things sorted.

I understand the sentiment but, for me, phrases like "well done you, that was difficult for you" smack of talking to a small child, not a perfectly intelligent adult.

This would set me back and make me reluctant to talk to ANY healthcare professional.
 
That approach is not for everybody I agree,but this individual felt the need to post on here because they sought help. My meaning was merely one of encouragement and certainly not intended to talk down to them , and I hope they don't interpret it that way. If a health care professional did talk to you in such a way that you found your were reluctant to talk to them. Then you should tell them that! Politely of course.
 
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I understand the sentiment but, for me, phrases like "well done you, that was difficult for you" smack of talking to a small child, not a perfectly intelligent adult.

This would set me back and make me reluctant to talk to ANY healthcare professional.
No offence but it wasn't addressed to you. If someone took offence on my behalf etc ;)
 

StBob072

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Book Reviewer
No offence but it wasn't addressed to you. If someone took offence on my behalf etc ;)

I know what you mean and I apologise for being shitty about a well-meaning post; I'm speaking from a personal perspective, having been "treated" by a psychiatrist who was working in a private hospital and who is currently under investigation for malpractice.

My point still stands, however, in terms of the GP/Psychiatrist approach first - someone qualified to sort out medications, any type of counselling etc. should come after.
 
No offence taken from anyone in any way. I’m genuinely grateful to all of you who have taken the time to reply.

And yes, I hated calling the doctor to arrange an appointment. Still, all done.
 
What treatments, plans, tricks, and methods have you used and found to work for clinical depression ( not just feeling a bit down and having a Jaffa cake to cheer you up depression ) my thoughts are as follows based on 20+ years of experience if it helps anyone.

1. Meds are the first step , without changing your brain chemistry you can't proceed to get better, you have to find the anti depressant that is right for you by trial and error, some have side effects but some don't , some work for a while then you get immune to them and have to change.

2. Eliminate stress, depression is always looking to find a way in when you are stressed out and distracted, its like a vulture that follows you around waiting for you to stumble so it can find a way in. If depression is long term you might need to change your lifestyle, work, and where you live to a low stress , non noisy, non city environment.

3. Are the NHS mental health services actually helping you are they stringing you along to justify their own jobs with endless assessments and bogus promises of treatments that never actually appear ? Ask to see what they are writing about you in their reports. Change your GP as many times as you need to until you find the one that you have confidence in.

4. You are probably ashamed to have depression and feel you have let people who depend on you down, mental illness still has a stigma attached to it but you didn't invent that so you don't have to accept it, depression may just be another physical illness that affects your brain chemistry which you have no control over and are not responsible for, the same as any other medical condition , if you think of it that way it no longer holds any power over you. Stop pretending you are OK when you're not.

5. Acceptance , once you accept that you have depression and stop trying to hide it depression looses its power over you, you can then move on to learning how to keep it in the shadows where it belongs and be in control of your life again, when it comes back you will then have a strategy to let it do its thing while you take the day off and go into survival mode, stay in bed if you want to, sit around in your pants, eat a whole bag of jelly babies ?
Change your life to stop doing the things that cause you stress and anxiety and refuse to get involved in them, instead concentrate on the things that you enjoy that don't trigger your illness. If you had cancer would you feel guilty about stopping work and taking time out to enjoy your life ? Of course not.

6. Are you going to tell everyone that you have depression ? This works both ways, some people need to know and will stick by you but others will avoid you from then on, some people will do the worst thing and try to " cheer you up " when you want to be left alone.

7. Drink and drugs won't help you out of this one, nor will comfort eating, forget about them as a way to cope. Piling on weight will just lower your self confidence even more.

Over to you...
I harrass attempt to enlighten numpties on t'interwebs...
 
My only problem is walking around with an empty arm until it refills with blood.
 
Evening. The GP has called me back and confirmed that I do appear to have an underactive thyroid, which is a pain in the proverbial but it at least provides a diagnosis of sorts.

He did, however, say it was marginal and recommended re-checking my bloods in 6 weeks before going to medical intervention.
 

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