Woman who says she has aspergers is kicked out of cinema for laughing too loud.

Spotting the triggers before they happen is an art form.

When Tye was moved to a specialist unit, we all had a go at writing instructions, called "Tye wrangling". Everyone involved can add to it. This has been invaluable when he has either moved schools or had new support workers.

He may look like he is getting on its something, but someone who knows him might spot the start of a meltdown, which may be explosive, classroom destroying anger, although rarely aimed at people, or it may be self harm.

One specialist facility that I took him to for a third visit, called me within two hours to collect him. He had been punching the ground, but nobody had even tried to physically stop him, even though they had been warned that restraint may be needed. We had to visit a and e on the way home. He never visited the happy clappy cnuts again!
 
One specialist facility that I took him to for a third visit, called me within two hours to collect him. He had been punching the ground, but nobody had even tried to physically stop him, even though they had been warned that restraint may be needed. We had to visit a and e on the way home. He never visited the happy clappy cnuts again!

The rules around restraint can sadly be misused but at times misunderstood. Another bug bear being told "You can't touch them in any way." If it's in the care plan/behaviour plan and needed I'm doing it!
happy clappy cnuts and touchy feely types at times get on my t*ts.
All individual and needed to be treated as such.
 

wheel

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Isn't it strange that the posters who were earlier bumping their gums & mashing their keyboards about how the minority of ppl who do have genuine illnesses or conditions should be pretty much ignored & not catered for in access or amenity provision, have now gone quiet following the postings of users with children with such conditions.
I have seen the standards of parenting on Pads estates , oh dear.
 

Fang_Farrier

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The rules around restraint can sadly be misused but at times misunderstood. Another bug bear being told "You can't touch them in any way." If it's in the care plan/behaviour plan and needed I'm doing it!
happy clappy cnuts and touchy feely types at times get on my t*ts.
All individual and needed to be treated as such.

Absolutely clinical restraint has become a dirty word, clinical holding however is now the preferred terminology.

Funnily enough it seems to be exactly the same methodology, though obviously I would never dream of holding a child's head still. I merely "support" it, as my nurse applies a reassuring holding of the hands!
 
Absolutely clinical restraint has become a dirty word, clinical holding however is now the preferred terminology.

Funnily enough it seems to be exactly the same methodology, though obviously I would never dream of holding a child's head still. I merely "support" it, as my nurse applies a reassuring holding of the hands!

A reassuring dental nurse?
All my mothers nurses had a glint in the eye. She was a NHS child specialist dentist until 2012.
 

BigT

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Spotting the triggers before they happen is an art form.

When Tye was moved to a specialist unit, we all had a go at writing instructions, called "Tye wrangling". Everyone involved can add to it. This has been invaluable when he has either moved schools or had new support workers.

He may look like he is getting on its something, but someone who knows him might spot the start of a meltdown, which may be explosive, classroom destroying anger, although rarely aimed at people, or it may be self harm.

One specialist facility that I took him to for a third visit, called me within two hours to collect him. He had been punching the ground, but nobody had even tried to physically stop him, even though they had been warned that restraint may be needed. We had to visit a and e on the way home. He never visited the happy clappy cnuts again!

I can see your having a tougher time than we are, my son is very placid so we don't have any problems with violent meltdowns, he tends to internalise and self-harm by gouging the back of his hands. I know what you mean by the happy clappy stuff but I saw the opposite side of the coin. My sons English GCSE course work had been mislaid a week before his exam and to be honest I'm not sure it was entirely accidental but Anthony was getting really stressed about it the teachers response was to tell him that "there's no magic pill for what you've got", this was in front of the class which appeared to give some of the kids licence to make things harder for him that they already were.
 
I can see your having a tougher time than we are, my son is very placid so we don't have any problems with violent meltdowns, he tends to internalise and self-harm by gouging the back of his hands.

That was a few years ago, and I wouldn't say we have it tough theses days. Providing he isn't in a stressful situation, there are few problems. Like yours, shrinking inside and self harm seems to be the current method.

If he is punching the ground these days, just placing your hand between ground and fist will be enough to stop him, he really is gentle to others, and that would be enough to make him stop.
 
Isn't it strange that the posters who were earlier bumping their gums & mashing their keyboards about how the minority of ppl who do have genuine illnesses or conditions should be pretty much ignored & not catered for in access or amenity provision, have now gone quiet following the postings of users with children with such conditions.

I stand by what I said, how many people have genuinely suffered an adverse reaction to a peanut allergy (I fully accept that the allergy is real and can cause serious problems for the sufferer) because someone was eating them in their vicinity?
 
Spotting the triggers before they happen is an art form.

When Tye was moved to a specialist unit, we all had a go at writing instructions, called "Tye wrangling". Everyone involved can add to it. This has been invaluable when he has either moved schools or had new support workers.

He may look like he is getting on its something, but someone who knows him might spot the start of a meltdown, which may be explosive, classroom destroying anger, although rarely aimed at people, or it may be self harm.

One specialist facility that I took him to for a third visit, called me within two hours to collect him. He had been punching the ground, but nobody had even tried to physically stop him, even though they had been warned that restraint may be needed. We had to visit a and e on the way home. He never visited the happy clappy cnuts again!

My youngest bottled it all up at school (again the female masking thing) and released it when she got home. It would vary from just hiding in her room sobbing to refusal to do things through to proper violent outbursts (I ended up with all the kitchen knives in a safe at one point)

Suffice to say, the fact that the real problems didn’t display at school was free licence for social services to point the finger. Despite several years asking for help and nothing being available due to lack of funding/resources they somehow managed to find all the ******* funding in the world to drag us to court...
 

Fang_Farrier

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My youngest bottled it all up at school (again the female masking thing) and released it when she got home. It would vary from just hiding in her room sobbing to refusal to do things through to proper violent outbursts (I ended up with all the kitchen knives in a safe at one point)

Suffice to say, the fact that the real problems didn’t display at school was free licence for social services to point the finger. Despite several years asking for help and nothing being available due to lack of funding/resources they somehow managed to find all the ******* funding in the world to drag us to court...

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Isn't it strange that the posters who were earlier bumping their gums & mashing their keyboards about how the minority of ppl who do have genuine illnesses or conditions should be pretty much ignored & not catered for in access or amenity provision, have now gone quiet following the postings of users with children with such conditions.

Context is a thing... As too 'bumping their gums & mashing their keyboards' this is Arrse, thus context. The case of the woman in the cinema, who in speaking to the standard said.

“I never meant to annoy anyone. I have problems with volume control. I was only trying to enjoy myself."

So she is 'self aware' of her condition, thus the following quote speaks volumes

“I didn't understand what I was doing wrong and I wanted to watch the rest of the film.
“Later the audience laughed again, and I said, without realizing my volume, ‘It wasn't that funny." That was when security came and asked me to leave."

Ms Parker said she refused and then two security guards grabbed her by the arms and lead her to the exit.

I am required to take anti-psychotic medication, thus I have to accept that, going to some places or engaging in some activities, that may encourage or make me psychotic is not the best of things. Thus I have to accept that there are places and activities that are now in the main 'off the program' as its best for others and myself.

So regardless of my 'absolute' rights to attended or visit any place that I want too, when I want too, I accept that others 'the majority' also have rights... Context.
 
I am required to take anti-psychotic medication, thus I have to accept that, going to some places or engaging in some activities, that may encourage or make me psychotic is not the best of things. Thus I have to accept that there are places and activities that are now in the main 'off the program' as its best for others and myself.

So regardless of my 'absolute' rights to attended or visit any place that I want too, when I want too, I accept that others 'the majority' also have rights... Context.

Yes, but when you ‘slip’ you would expect that, upon explaining yourself, you would be dealt with sympathetically and with humanity, eg. “Look, we have a problem here, we have had some complaints and it’s impacting on others enjoyment, can we ask you to leave and come with us and see how we can best resolve this.” rather than dragged out the back and given a kicking.
 

Bollox

War Hero
In these benefit programs with single mums or parents on the dole most have at least 1 child who has a slight learning difficulty, which is convenient as it means no matter how many kids they have their benefits will never be capped.
 

BigT

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In these benefit programs with single mums or parents on the dole most have at least 1 child who has a slight learning difficulty, which is convenient as it means no matter how many kids they have their benefits will never be capped.

In my experience parents don't get to choose if a child has a learning difficulty.
 
Isn't it strange that the posters who were earlier bumping their gums & mashing their keyboards about how the minority of ppl who do have genuine illnesses or conditions should be pretty much ignored & not catered for in access or amenity provision, have now gone quiet following the postings of users with children with such conditions.

Not me, I reckon the spackers should be banned from public areas.
 

Bollox

War Hero
In my experience parents don't get to choose if a child has a learning difficulty.
A mate at works wife is a private paediatric consultant she gets paid thousands to diagnose children with slight learning difficulties.
Little Johnnies not thick he has dyslexia
Little Tommy isn't a dick he has attention problems
 

theoriginalphantom

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In my experience parents don't get to choose if a child has a learning difficulty.

Parents can choose do assist the child , or play on it.

While at an ATR we had some insane specialist who would assess any problem recruits, and every single person referred to her was diagnosed with some form of dislexia or other. It was all down to learning difficulties - including the one who was unable to follow any order unless strictly supervised. He had dislexia too, he couldn't (after a considerable time in training and rehab) get dressed into the same uniform as everyone else, even with other recruits attempting to help him.

There are careers to be had assessing people, especially children, and diagnosing them.
 

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