Right here goes. I came home from work the other day and cracked on with my usual night routine, washing up, cooking tea, etc. After tea the missus disappeared and being the observant person I am (and engrossed on Call of Duty) I didn't notice for about 20 mins. When I did go and find her, she was in bed balling her eyes out. When I asked what was wrong she went into a tirade of babbling nonsense but what I did manage to decypher through the snot and tears was that she was fed up with:- her job, the fact she passes out pretty much once a day from low blood pressure, with being preganant, with my current post, and the fact that no-one from either of our families contact us (I'm not that bothered, less to spend at christmas), and the biggy.....no-one would notice if she wasn't here......ALARM BELLS! Now here is the big problem, I work in a trade school and the students are going on exercise this weekend and the SSM said I was going. When I told him I couldn't go because she keeps falling over in random places he seemed distant and not really willing to make a call on this. I did go on the exercise yesterday, but my oppo is supposed to be going down there today for the rest of the week. All sorted? Not really. I get a phone call this morning saying he saw me out the house last night and telling me I was going on Monday morning to finish the ex. When he asked why I was out the house I politely explained and then said: "you said you couldn't go because your wife is ill" Then I explained about the Depression and received a arrse chewing for not passing it up the CoC that my wife wants to kill herself, after being told to pack a bag because you are going on this exercise and to get a relative to call to check she's ok. Where do I stand on this. Who do I talk to?