Last year I had a fling with a lad who treated me like shit, he was always letting me down at a minutes notice blaming it on his job, and to my shame I put up with it time and time again. The worse he treated me the more I wanted him, and for some bizarre reason I worshiped the ground he walked on. He finally ended it in a particularly cruel manner earlier this year. Now after licking my wounds for a couple of months iv started seeing someone new, he treats me well, heâs far better looking that the other guy, good civvy job, gorgeous new house and respects me fully, heâs even better In bed than the other guy, so why when we were getting jiggy at the weekend was I thinking of the fatherless from before? This got me thinking, I know loads of girls, who are attractive, independent, successful in their chosen careers, emotionally secure, funny and in short perfect girlfriend material, (sadly these girls I talk of are friends and not me!) who spend years happily single, turning down offers from successful attractive men only to fall for the guyâs who treat them like something they have trodden in and then are shocked and heartbroken when the inevitable happens and they dump them, and why do these blokes treat them so shoddily when they have obviously done well to pull these girls in the 1st place. So as I canât afford counselling session why is this? And on the flip side of StabTiffy2Bâs The Eternal Question of the Nice guy vs. the B*stard. Why do blokes never know when they are onto a good thing, and why do women want what they canât have?