Whinging Wives

Discussion in 'Charities and Welfare' started by Soldier_Why, Feb 15, 2003.

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  1. Soldier_Why

    Soldier_Why LE Moderator

    Dictated by my spouse:-

    Having been an Army Wife for the last umpteen years it still gets my goat that some people think everything should be handed to them on a plate.

    Recently, whilst picking my child up from the pre-school I overheard a coven of wives grumbling about the forthcoming deployment.  It went something like this:

    Wifie 1 - "This place is a dump - two weeks after my husband goes I'll be bored"

    Wifie 2 - "I know, I can't wait to get away from here"

    Wifie 3 - "There's nothing to do here"

    This really irritated me as it's not as if the camp is in the middle of nowhere (East of England and 2 mins from the A1).  Even if they can't drive the Fams Office has arranged shopping trips during deployment and the camp itself has a Gym and a swimming pool which are both open to dependants.

    My point is that even if these facilities weren't available, why should wives expect anything when their husbands go away?  Are they not grown ups able to look after themselves?
     
  2. I THINK THE WIVES ARE MORE GROWN UPS THAN THEIR HUSBANDS .YOU SOLDIERS DON'T KNOW ABOUT WORKING  HARD.YOU HAVE A LOT OF LEAVE /GET YOUR MONEY BY THE END OF THE MONTH / SKI ./DIVING/AND ALL THE OTHER ADVENTURE TRAININGS  HA,HA JUST CALL IT HOLIDAY AND FUN WITHOUT KIDS AND WIFE.PARTY !!!BUT SOON YOU HAVE TO GO AWAY YOU WHINGING BECAUSE YOU CAN'T GET ALKOHOL.THAT'S THE ONLEY WORRY SOLDIERS HAVE OH AND THE SE*.LUCKY YOU GOT YOUR OWN FEMALE SOLDIERS!!!!! TO HELP OUT. SO I DON'T KNOW WHY SO MANY MARRIAGES FALLING APART AFTER A TOUR!!!! ::) ::) ::)
     
  3. Ouch!!

    Maybe army wives just like whinging for the sake of it, like soldiers like whinging as described on Happy Happy Joy Joy............just a thought?!!!
     
  4. SOLDER_WHY  THAT NAME IS SUITABLE FOR  YOU.NO WONDER WHY YOU STILL HERE  ;D ;D ;D HOW :'( SAD ARE YOU FOR YOUR AGE!!!!!!!!!
     
  5. Soldier_Why

    Soldier_Why LE Moderator

    I can only assume from your rant and your sign on name that you are one of those German wives who are more than happy to be married to a British soldier when he is stationed in Germany but the moment he is posted elsewhere then I think it's fair to say "the honeymoon is over".

    I hate to p*ss on your parade boxhead but you're not the first German wife to realise that the guy she married was an immature sprog overwhelmed by regular sex.  The scenario is a familiar one;  young soldier, new in Germany, splashing all his money on beer and gyros meets local "good time" girl, sh*gs like a bunny (probably for the first time), thinks with his little head and before the blood rushes back to his head finds himself hitched to Frau Frankenstella and a little Herman on the way.

    The problem then is, that immature sprog starts to grow up, sees what a good time his single mates are having and wants a part of it.

    Not fair?  Probably not, but then who said life was fair?


    But then you don't know how old or how sad I really am!!



    P.S.  STOP TYPING IN CAPITALS - IT'S CALLED SHOUTING!!!
     
  6. Your havin' a larf incha!? What? Where? [​IMG]
     
  7. I am a wife - but one who articulates concerns and doesn't whinge. For the last couple of months I have noticed that wives in are in fact unsung heroes who have much to shoulder and little reward, other than loving their family. ;)

    I firmly believe that if they feel there is nothing to do, make something to do. We are mostly bright women who have bags of initiative and lots of ideas. So why not see what can happen if we communicate them to our welfare offices?

    So far, I like many others have not seen much to put my faith in the welfare system. But I do live in hope. What I think we all have to remember is the people employed within welfare are there to service a client group - and that's us. If you buy anything faulty, you bring it back and complain don't you? So, if you feel that enough isn't being done for us on this very difficult deployment tell the welfare guys. After all, they aren't mystic meg and are men who are primarily tyring to work with women, so why don't we give them a bit of help and encouragement?

    Mind you, there are some in the welfare office where we are who far outshine others... :)
     
  8. I guess you wrote your own little personal life down "Soldier_Why" You know what you talking about!!!! :eek:
     
  9. Soldier_Why

    Soldier_Why LE Moderator

    If you must know boxhead, my wife, who I have been with happily for the last 13 years, comes from the same town as I do in the UK.

    My comments stem from experience in my job of the welfare difficulties that soldiers approach me with.

    I can only assume that your argument is weak, or I struck too close to home if you have to retort with childish criticisms.
     
  10. I only can guess what your job is .You can call my arguments weak  and childish .Who cares? But you forgot you on www.arrse and not in your office. ; 8)
     
  11. Soldier_Why

    Soldier_Why LE Moderator

    In which case, boxhead, I must apologise for not coming down to your level - I started this thread with the intention of provoking mature and informed debate.  If all you want to do is initiate name calling and tit-for-tat posts I suggest you stick to the NAAFI. :mad:
     
  12. You have no level mate or why did you started "Whinging wives"It's a shame that people like you work for the welfare. :'( stick your next reply up your ........you boring me!!!!!
     
  13. QED - I think sums things up

    Good post from Lucy.  I was in for 9 years and spent most of my time away from wife and kids, generally leaving them in a foreign country with few contacts.

    The first time my wife actually complained what a crap time she had had was when I was medically discharged.  Her view being that it was a job I loved and why should she make me change what I was doing when we met.  Instead of bumping her gums she found things to do and made the most of it.  

    I agree with Soldier_Why's summary of standard squaddie path to marriage although you missed out the escape the block piece.  I would also probably suggest that prior to marriage - both parties should work out who their marrying and what they do (as a hint - soldiers move a lot, live on the patch, go on tours and are underpaid - so live with it)

    I wasn't going to have a bitch but some of the post may be improved by the author getting a life (and a dictionary)

    Very entertaining posts though  :D

    Oh and I did play loads of sport and go skydiving (when not in Bosnia, Ireland, Falklands, Gulf ...)..... but then so did my missus (subsidised as she was a wife of :p)
     
  14. Soldier_Why

    Soldier_Why LE Moderator

    You've obviously been paying attention haven't you?
     
  15. Ohhhhhh. Good topic gone bad me thinks! :eek: :eek: