When I was in the army my own experience was that officers who came from Sandhurst or who were academy trained made the best officers and they were always polite when they addressed you. Those who became officers through the ranks made the worst officers. The latter always changed personality wise and their wives or at least most of them would try and talk with an upper crust voice and they always sounded stupid. The men themselves changed completely, they too tried to be something they never were to begin with. When they retired unlike officers who came from the Sandhurst school they tended to advertise their rank that was i.e. Colonel Blink. They would demand you address them using their retired status title, it may be that when you were a squaddie you knew him as a private or trooper. You also find that those who were made up through the ranks even ex serving WO2's tend to find it difficult to understand that they are now civilians and not in the armed forces. Maybe it would be better to send them all to the Chelsea pensioners home or something like that. Sadly though many of these people wives included just can't forget what was. God bless them all.