I've got a couple of new lads joining my platoon and as part of my job, I've got to make a short home visit (to see if it's suitable for secure storage, or if they've got busts of Hitler/Osama/Belzebub all over the place). Just 15 minutes, half an hour at most. One bloke says yeah no problem, and I'm over a day or two later, No dramas. Other bloke says "I've got to talk to the wife first", then he phones me the next day giving me a precise date and time a month away. This I think is a bit odd... There could be any number of reasons I suppose, but it's not due to his work or health, so I'm pretty sure it's due to his wife being of a somewhat controlling nature, and see possible non-attendance and booting ahead. This would of course be a massive waste of time, effort, and money, both for him and us. So what to do? Is being under the thumb a sure-fire recipe for a short career as a part-time soldier? Or is the wearing of M/84 (note not DPM or MTP) likely to make him grow a pair? Have any of you had lads in your units who were totally under the thumb? How long did they last? Thanks in advance for any input. Cheers T_T NOTE: I am not in the TA, this post is about a similar organisation in Denmark.