Truth is that- as with all of human endeavour- some people are “better” at banter than others. Quicker, funnier, louder, more charismatic. “Better”.
Banter can easily be a euphemism for bullying- only the victim is under pressure to laugh along and come back with some weak riposte of their own, which will probably be used as the basis of, and to justify and excuse, the continuance of more “banter”
Banter is okay when it’s on equal terms but it often isn’t. I would encourage anyone who has had enough of it to punch the banterer-in-chief full in the face. Shouting “B-A-N-T-E-R” as they so do.
All very laudable, and comes under the heading of Rough justice, however, in the civvie workplace, and more so in the military, its really going to affect your promotion prospects ( And in the mob, freedom of movement) prospects somewhat!