OK, I'll stick my head back above the parapet so I can voice my opinion. No doubt the usual gang will round up the posse and spout their venomous drivel and drone on with their oh so humourous quips. In recent weeks a certain few of the members of this once great site have been hounded to such an extent that they have felt the need to back away from ARRSE - me included. Some decent site members who give much to the site. MiT, Zero-Over, Greyfergie, myself and probably others have all become the target for some Internet Hardmen. I don't know how many of the semi-literate gobshites have actually served - probably not many. But despite many of your protestations, this is not the way normal squaddies behave. Some of the bile that is spouted would not get you a round of applause and back-slaps in a real NAAFI bar, it'd either get you punched, or locked in a cell. Yes, really. I have served in a variety of units - RAMC, Infantry, RE, REME, R Sigs and none of the bars in any of these units would much of what is said be acceptable. I have no problem with humour. Gallows humour, black humour even sick humour is fair enough. What I, and other, have seen recently on this site is not humour. OK, I opened up on two major parts of my real life. Maybe that was unwise. I don't think that some of the crap hurled at me was in any way justified. Yes, I underwent Gender Reassignment (paid for myself), and yes, I had what the Docs now are calling a Nervous Breakdown. Neither of these life events hurt any one of you, or even affected any one of you. I blogged my life changes here because a number of people asked me to do so. I thought it may enlighten some, educate others. I opened a Mental Health thread because I felt it was right to get Mental Health issues in the open as, frankly, there really is nothing to be ashamed of if you suffer. Do you know what - it turned out that lots of people struggled with mental health issues at some point and they felt able to unload, compare and discuss their issues. Until the posse of Internet Hardmen decided to wade in with their size 12 boots and kick shit around. I have been guilty of sometimes overstepping the mark and saying something nasty to a poster or two on here - usually in response to an extremely stupid remark. And yes, I once told someone to deep fry their head. I have no doubt whatsoever that the person (or sockpuppet) who it was directed at realised that is was not an actual instruction or piece of genuine advice, but rather an bit of an OTT response to their remark. Of course I don't really want someone to deep fry their head! I've also been accused of bringing the LGBT and 'The Padre' kicking down the doors of the site. Actually, I think Good CO (if he wishes to venture an opinion) will agree that I did no such thing, and I was in fact spending lots of time on the phone with both GCO and 'The Padre' (who I did know) trying to calm the situation. This site used to be a place to come for a laugh, where you could ask sensible questions on any number of subjects and get sensible replies, chat about the forces and the world about us. Do you remember a time when the press used to quote ARRSE over Defence matters? The only quotes now are when ARRSE Users are quoted describing how much they would like to rape someone, and how they'd do it. It is full of lynch mobs, never served numbskulls who want to appear tough and other people who just want to spout nasty, bilious crap and get away with it. I wonder what the COs think about how ARRSE has come down in estimation of the press? I know that what I've said will make not a single iota of difference to the people who are actually causing damage to the site, but hey, I can live in hope. I may stay around to see. I may not. Who cares?