Just saw this in today's papers: My sister won't give life-saving bone marrow By Nigel Bunyan Last Updated: 1:26am GMT 24/03/2007 A cancer sufferer claimed yesterday that his sister had refused to donate her bone marrow. Mr Pretty: 'I can't believe that she would let my three children lose their father'. Simon Pretty, 46, has been told by doctors that without a bone marrow transplant he has only months to live, leaving his girlfriend, Jacqueline Fenton, to bring up their three children, Rebecca, eight, Jack, six, and Benjamin, three, on her own. Mr Pretty, a businessman from Mobberley, Cheshire, said yesterday: "I won't beg Helen for her bone marrow. "I can't believe that she would let my three children lose their father." He recalled being reduced to tears after finding a handwritten prayer in his daughter's coat pocket which read: "Please don't let my daddy die from cancer." The Anthony Nolan Trust has been unable to identify any other suitable donor in Britain. As a result Mr Pretty, the human resources manager of a Liverpool-based media company, is now clinging to the faint hope that another donor can be found. However, that is unlikely because he has a rare tissue type and his sister is believed to be the only person in the world who is a perfect match. Miss Fenton said: " The past few months have been hell." Mr Pretty was diagnosed with a rare form of leukaemia in July 2004. His sister was tested as a potential bone marrow donor and found to be a perfect match. He claims that she initially agreed to the donation, only to change her mind at a later date. He claims that she gave no reason for her change of heart. Mr Pretty, who is no longer on speaking terms with his 43-year-old sister, said: "We were not close as children but I have always encouraged my children to play with her children as I think family life is very important. " The businessman is currently having chemotherapy treatment at the Christie Hospital, Manchester. "The treatment is tough and it is tortuous to go on with it," he said. "I have had a skin-full of chemotherapy and all the side effects which go with it. I will continue the treatment and continue to look for an alternative match. I have to remain hopeful, I have a young family and I have to keep my spirits up for them." Miss Pretty, the mother of two children, runs a private education business from her executive-style detached home in Wilmslow, Cheshire. She has refused to comment on her brother's allegations. Last night a sign on her door read: "No journalists". Miss Fenton visited Miss Pretty in the hope that she would change her mind. "She opened the front door half way and I told her that things were desperate and the children thought their daddy was going to die. "She said, 'Sorry, I am not doing it'. "I asked her to give me a reason and she said, 'I am putting my family first'. "I was so upset and I said, 'Don't you care if your brother dies?' She said, 'It's very sad'." Miss Fenton acknowledges that she was arrested after launching herself at her sister-in-law. Police took no further action but she later received a solicitor's letter warning her to stay away. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/main.jhtml?xml=/news/2007/03/24/nmarrow24.xml This strikes me as an incredibly selfish attitude. As far as I am aware bone marrow transplantation is a painful and nasty procedure, but certainly not life-threatening. What would you do? Kidnap her one night? Chop off a leg and use the bits that way? Camp outside her house until you die hideously? Train your children and make them swear to get vengeance even unto the third generation? All in all, quite astonishing, although he is probably now regretting pulling his sister's hair many years ago. I admire his girlfriend though!