Maybe I can get some help from here. The People: 1 x Male (26) 1 x Female (2 The Location Both in London Both originally from Scotland Female due to return to Scotland end of year, depending The Situation Male served 4 years in Army, loving it, currently Living In at SLAM on Barracks. Female currently on transfer to London office, due to return to Scotland at end of year. Living in rented accomodation in heart of London but owns a nice flat in Scotland. Both deeply, madly in love, and quite convinced they've found their partner for life. The Logistics Neither are sure how to proceed from here on in. Talk of marriage, house, kids, but no idea how to achieve those aims. She can stay in London for as long as she wants, but doesn't, really, want to. However, she doesn't want to be apart from him. He could go back to Scotland every weekend he has free, however, it's not ideal, obviously. They could rent together, however, it is expensive, and not going to allow them to save much for a house together. They could buy together, but if they have a child, they want it to be born and raised for the first few years at least, in Scotland. So do they get married, get a married quarter, save money for house in London there, have child born and raised in her flat in Scotland, with him commuting every weekend to visit? This is not good for raising child, obviously. Does he take six months special leave from his Regiment to be with them both in Scotland, risking career prospects? Do they just stay in married quarters and raise child there? She wants to be close to parents. Is it better for us to be close together with the child, or should she be close to her parents for support when I deploy, etc? What, in other words, the hell are we to do? So confused. She has a flat in Scotland, which is enough to raise a newborn child until at least three or four, with some imaginative refurbishing. She's semi-close to parents there, but miles away from me, in London. I could visit every weekend to see them, but I don't think that would make me a good father, and the early years are the important ones. At the same time, I've only ever heard bad things about married quarters, and am not sure I want to raise a child in them, and certainly don't think I want to have her there on her own when I'm away. Just not sure what to do, don't think I've explained it very well. Help! I need some ideas or suggestions. I'm a regular on these Forums, but to save embarrassment, have created a new ID for this one. I'd love to hear from people that have no doubt had the exact same problems.