TA Girlfriends....

Hi all,

I'm gonna be going down to the 266 Battery in bristol on tuesday, and the one problem that I'm getting is my girlfriend just cries at the mere mention of me joining the TA.

I was wandering if any of you guys here have girlfriends that opposed to you being in the TA and what you did to turn them around? I'm really in a pickle here because like I said, everytime I mention that I'm going down on tuesday it starts her off.

She knows that mobilization is voluntary atm but can be become compulsory at anytime.

Weird topic I know but I don't know anyone who can give me sound advice about the matter


Edit : and no I won't leave her lol


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new girlfriend?
tell her you see her a damn site more then us reg boys and she has the free time to see her mates for a wine evening whilst your away!!

My g/f is always loving the juggle between us time and her mates seeing her!!
Or............ you could just be a big girls blouse and not join the TA; you will of course regret it for the rest of your life, so I think it's safe to say......

Dump the Bitch!

Neil.Larsen said:
heh aye mate thats what I've told her, I was going to be joining the regular army but I had to compromise really.

her real fear is deployment
So you've already given up one thing you wanted for her , now she wants you to give this up too. Buy her a dictionary and highlight the word compromise.
Henry_Tombs said:
Or............ you could just be a big girls blouse and not join the TA; you will of course regret it for the rest of your life, so I think it's safe to say......
Dump the Bitch!
Yep thats the reason I have no intention of saying to her " ah you know what? screw that, I'll just play videogames or play airsoft and pretend I was something I'm not"

But I have every intent of staying with her, its damn frustrating


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Thousands of soldiers, and specifically hundreds of TA soldiers deploy every year, and the vast, vast majority do come home ok. Your just as likely to be hit by a car.
Yep, I've said to her that its rare that tours are 100% bullet filled movie-esque 24/7 and that I could die everyday in civvy street but ya know...

Shes 18 and doesn't really wanna except that. I've told her the statistics but she just dont wanna hear it, all I get it " i don't wanna hear statistics neil, there could be a bad day and that'd be it"
1)Do you want to join the TA more than you want to be kow-towing to her?

2)Does she want to be your honey, more than she wants to be the honey of a non-TA guy?

Answer: It is your call...at 18-19 years old please don't let a "girlfriend" dictate to you...
Explain to her that firstly, she is a controlling cow and that you should be smashing her back doors in rather than debating your lifestyle choice with her.

Secondly explain to her, that if you joined the TA tomorrow, you realistically wouldnt be even allowed to go on tour for at least 18 months (by the time youve done your CMSR, trade training etc)
Also explain to her the merrits of 'intelligent mobilisation'
Then explain the benefits of being with you and your yearly TA income.
Lastly, and im being quite serious, explain to her that you are young, have already made one sacrifice for her, and you are not prepared to make another. Simple isnt it :D


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Bottom line is that there is no easy answer, she wont have an epiphany and go ok ok then. She either gets used to it, and accepts this is something you want to do, or your relationship is doomed. Unless of course you give into her and dont do anything.
I was hoping that in perfect scenario I could be doing the TA and wheni come home shes proud of me etc, but I guess you can only dream eh.

Thanks cuddles that last sentence is what i've been trying to tell myself everytime I keep hearing her say some pretty damn negative things.
I've been in the TA just 3 years and already been through 2 girlfriends/fiance.

girls will come and go, don't give up your life for them, even if you think they are a keeper, could have sworn my last one was for life but it didn't work out that way, now I regret that I let her make me take time off the TA and am loving it now im back into it and realising what I've missed.

I've met a lot of guys who were talked into leaving the regs/TA by women, and the women ended up leaving them anyway.

It's a control thing masqaurading as genuine concern, if she was really after your well being she'd realise you won't be satisfied with not going and grow old wishing you had some balls whilst you were still young.

Just tell her what you want to do and she can like it or lump it.
Selfish is one word for doing what you NEED to do, with YOUR life...

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