This is a cry for help... I have totally run out of ideas of what to do... let me explain how it started I had a call from the school yesterday afternoon about my son who is just 15 and was at the time on a D of E expedition in Dorset. The night before, it seems, he had mixed with another group of lads from a different school and got so drunk that he threw up in his tent and over his friends things from 3am in the morning. He was the only one from his school group who sneaked out late at night to join this other school group to do this. The school have said he now is on suspension and not allowed back to school this term and could get kicked out....he goes to a private school locally as the states schools are so bad with drugs and drink!!! (Ironic) I have asked him why he did this he said...'I don't know.' he now says he was forced by the other group.....after further investigation this has been admitted as a lie - he now says it was he wanted to be cool! He has a younger 13yr old brother who is ADHD and OCD who attempted suicide at Easter, who is very close to him .. even though they fight like cat and dog. But even he was shocked by his older brothers actions and I was very surprised by his comments to his brother (not able to type them here!) He only has had one other incident with alcohol and this was 2 bottles of larger at a friends house and this was dealt with by grounding and telephone removal. The family talk around the table, do things together, they go to ACF twice a week, play sports for county and for fun and everyone is so surprised by this. Could it be due to the fact I have to work more hours??? Should I have been harder on him as a kid? Can it be he only sees his real dad every 2 weeks and he doesnt really spend quality time with him? I have grounded him, taken his phone off him, set him jobs to do around the house, he not allowed treats..... He is seeing a Captain who he admires and respects at 14:00hrs today to tell him the truth about his idea of joining the army at 18 - but will this work??? Any advice please I really need it.