CivvyLurker
LE

Humans are predisposed to look for healthy specimens for our mates - it's wired into our monkey brains and without emotional intelligence and self-awareness on the part of the skinny-minny, the fat potential partner needs other significantly positive attributes to over-ride it. Women's monkey brains still want a bloke to look like he can chase a deer to exhaustion and kill it for dinner.I have to agree with her here. Fat phobia is real. Try being a plus size fella on an average wage, trying to pull a slim girl.
Your options would be: Get fit; get a fat wallet; get really good at DIY/cooking/car maintenance/gardening.
My consultancy charges are usually £150 an hour but you can have that for free.