SNCO spouses in Officers Mess

Discussion in 'Officers' started by Boyzie, Nov 26, 2005.

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  1. An officer in my Regiment, who shall remain nameless, has married a female Warrant Officer who is also serving with the Regiment. She comes into our mess and attends the same functions that her OC also attends. This surely has to have an effect on the ability of the OC to relax and enjoy the mess that he has earned the right to be a member of.

    As a serving officer I do not agree with spouses of serving officers being allowed in the mess who have not yet earned the right to enter our establishment either through merit or hard work.

    I do not have a problem with Officers taking OR spouses, but, I do have a problem with them serving in the same Regiment. :evil:
  2. I agree with you. In days gone past that marriage would not have been allowed unless she resigned. Does the CO not have the right to veto these types of marriages any more?
  3. Spanish_Dave

    Spanish_Dave LE Good Egg (charities)

    Tossor, we arent all born with a silver spoon 8O
  4. The guy is totally correct. The two management structures should be kept apart socially. Would you want to see troopers in the sgts mess?
  5. As such, civilian wives should not be allowed to enter the Mess? They have not earned the right through establishment or birth, either.
  6. Boyzie,

    I agree with you. The Officer in question is putting his fellow Officers in an uncomfortable and potentially embarrassing situation.

    The CO needs to show some back bone and look after the Officers under his Command. Whilst they are fully within their rights to complain or simply refuse to attend functions, it is a COs job to solve these sorts of situations.

    The Officer that married the WO must have known that there are some sacrifices that need to be made in doing so
  7. i've had this before more than once. officer and WO - solution our messes had was that the other partner came to functions as a civvie would - i.e. no mess dress, just dress or DJ. no rank or privilege accorded while they were there. bad situation, but seemed to make the best of it.

    and no, they weren't routinely allowed in the bar or anything. only at functions.
  8. There's no conflict of interest if a 'civvy' wife or girlfriend is in the mess.
  9. I've been in messes where this was an issue.

    The most poignant argument was that a mess member could pick up any old slapper down town and bring her into the mess, why not someone who at least has a bit of background?

    It all went adrift though when two subbies got 'escorts' for the summer bash. Stunners they were, but everybody knew that all bets were now off. The decision is usually summer and christmas bashes only, as there are so many guests it hardly matters.

    Still I think this will run on for a few generations yet.
  10. I was not born with a silver spoon either. I worked hard at school and obtained my commission through merit. You, my fellow, obviously did not if thats the only comment you can come up with.
  11. The problem with mess etiquette is that when you start mentioning it to people who have none, they fail to understand what it's for.
  12. Spanish_Dave

    Spanish_Dave LE Good Egg (charities)

    boyzone I never had any quals at school and joined at 16, now after a full career which ended in a medical discharge and an 80% war pension and also distinguishing myself many times in the WO's & Sgts Mess with my wife who equally had no qualifications I now have a Masters in Education.
  13. BQ, you should know the craic then mate.
  14. I cant believe im reading this garbage.............stuck up twat!!
  15. Get over yourself Boyzie.......
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