Mods please move if this in the incorrect forum. Right then, I'm in a dilemma, and I need my fellow ARRSEr's to help me out. A few background details first. I'm 34 in a few days, I've worked in the building trade (sales & estimating) since I left school 16yrs ago, I have no formal qualifications apart from respectable GCSE's and A-Levels (I never wanted to go to Uni, but wish I had now), and my wife gave birth to twin boys a few months ago. My wife is a comprehensive school teacher and deputy head of the department she works in. She also earns nearly half as much again as me. The company I work for, as like many others is struggling in the current recession, so my job is not exactly rock solid. My workplace is also 45 miles away from where I work, which means I won't get to see much of my boys during the working week as they'll be asleep by the time I get home, and I spend Â£300 a month on petrol. Now, my wife's maternity leave will finish in August, ready for her to go back to teaching in September. Tonight, she has suggested I give up work and become a house-husband, to save on child care costs. So, should I pack in my job which I hate anyway to look after my boys? Which would also mean doing all the house work, and becoming the bitch in my relationship with my wife. Although, on the plus side, I get to spend time with my boys and ensure they don't grow up being liberal, tree hugging lefties like my wife. I don't think watching Jeremy Kyle is compulsary, but I'm prepared to take one for the team on that one. Do I give my wife complete control over my genitals, or should I remain a man and stay in work?