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Should i dump the girl??

#1
hiya guys - appreciate your advice on this one. ive got basic training in feb/mar and its for about 9 months or so which i suppose is a rather a long time to be away from home.and me girl wants to stay with me - i dont know myself - what would you guys do? trust her for 9 months or let her go.(ps if it helps shes no minger) :) views very welcome!
 
#3
I spent two and a half years in Cyprus without seeing my GF of the time but we never split up and later got married and were very happy for 27 years. If you don't think you can last 9 months (which seems to be a hell of a long training) give up now but it's a bit defeatist. I don't know why you should think you won't be able to gget home for 9 months.
 
#6
See how it goes after a while away - keep in touch by writing and phoning. You should get some leave after a few weeks. When you see her then see how things are between you. She may have dumped you by then for someone else, which may not be a bad thing at least you will know early on rather then when you went on tour
 
#7
Only you know your relationship, whether you really trust each other and can deal with being physically separated for any length of time, but I'd say give it a go and see how you get on maintaining your relationship during training. Saying that, if all you find you're doing is stressing about what she may or may not be getting up to or getting grief from her about what you may or may not be getting up to, then I'd say concentrate on your career.
 

Schaden

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#8
Nope - if only to have the knowledge that you have a far greater chance of getting repeatedly laid once they let you out.

We will of course require a picture to confirm this advice.
 
#10
Dog-faced-soldier said:
Why bin her? Keep her. You dont have to be faithful to her but it is always good to have a back up. If she bins you, no great loss.
Quite right - why dump her? Keep her for when you get back - saves having a wnak when you're on leave.

CC_TA
 
#12
craftsmanx said:
I spent two and a half years in Cyprus without seeing my GF of the time but we never split up and later got married and were very happy for 27 years. If you don't think you can last 9 months (which seems to be a hell of a long training) give up now but it's a bit defeatist. I don't know why you should think you won't be able to gget home for 9 months.
exactly, you may not get weekends off straight away, but you will get more off later on. its a bit bad that you are thinking of this unless you have no feelings for her whatsoever.

simple - if you like her, keep her and write her a few soppy (but truthful) letters/cards/phone calls etc.

if not, let her down gently.

as for the people saying two time her - thats up to you. i'm no angel and cheated a lot on my wife because i was a ********. i always noticed that the guys who didnt cheat were the switched on types - who would do anything for anyone.

my point is that i'm now much older (36!!!) and very happily married (2nd time) - and i wouldnt dream of being with anyone else (though being a man i naturally look now and again!!!).

if you are "right" for one another, neither of you would cheat. alternatively, who knows what they really want at 17, 18, 19???

do what you wana do - but think about it deeply first.

B.
 
#13
Presuming you are only young, and going by past experience,(married at 19 whilst serving coz of getting posted and not wanting to be apart)and then divorcing 10 years later coz we 'grew apart' I would say 'Bin her, enjoy yourself and later on in life if it was meant to be she'll still be around.
Thats what my son did, he's gone to uni in manchester from London, split with long time girl friend so as 'not to hurt her' and still gets a shag when he comes home.
Lifes to short and theres loads of squaddie lovin dirty cows out there to play with before settling down mate........in my humble, and for what its worth, good luck!
 
#14
Dog-faced-soldier said:
Why bin her? Keep her. You dont have to be faithful to her but it is always good to have a back up. If she bins you, no great loss.

Exactly

a Good Soldier always has a reserve.


take some linly pics of her before you start training

they will be handy for self abuse

and if she does do the dirt on you

post them up

its a win win situation
 
#15
dont leave her mate, if she realy loves you a couple of months waiting wont hurt her will it dude seriously keep her (Y) ... just sit her down and tell her how you feel about joining the army.
 
#16
I can't believe that you're thinking of dumping her. That's a purely selfish and antisocial attitude.

What she needs to realise is that you will no longer be an individual. You will be part of a team. "Love me, love my mates."

She'll no longer be just your girlfriend, but also the girlfriend of the rest of your section. Obviously, it's only right that you get first go....
 
#19
Sit her down and have a long chat about what you both want from the relationship.
Some times long distant relationships can work, LadyVonHarley started out as a LDR, but they come with health warnings. Weekends togeather tend to be very very intense and have resulted in all manner of injuries, you will develope "texter thumb" from loads of texting "I love you loads xxxxx " at 2am after a night out on the lash, your balls will also be slighly bigger due to lack of use.

However, women tend to be snakes with tits, so you will have to take you chances that she is not bare backing about town. Nothing says I love you like a dose of the clap.
 
#20
i would say give it a go thats what im doing. im going in soon and just aftre my missis is off to uni. the paranoier will be there,but if ya can trust her put it to the test thats what im doing and is if dont work then such is life just enjoy being single the thats less off ya mind