During WW1 the Suffragettes loved to hand out white feathers to men they felt ought to have been conscripted and sent to die in the trenches.
Those Men included 16 and 17 year old boys - who incidently didnt have the vote and nor were they included in the suffragettes campaign to extend voting rights.
Not saying this of you personally but in general: pro-abortion activists take it for granted that most of if not all women are pro-abortion, and the majority of those anti-abortion are men. I don't believe either assumption is true.
Likewise
I firmly believe the argument is phrased as such, not because they believe it to be the case but because making it an equality / feminist issue enables them to control the debate.
I support the decision to overturn Roe V Wade -
Expressing that opinion will be countered with I dont have a Uterous - Im part of the Patriarchy - I want to control women - Man controlling women etc
It has nothing to do with my position viz abortion - I just think it was a mistake and it belongs with the states to decide (For the record I think its a retrograde step many states are now taking - but its their decision)
But it doesnt matter what I think - because im from the wrong demographic my opinion can be missrepresented and myself denigrated at every turn to ensure only the polarised 'correct" opinion is valid
Its effective at stiffling debate and ensuring only your voice is heard in the short term - but longterm it leads to highly polarised positions - lots of cretinous claims and the vast majority who you need to support you being disengaged at best or so effed of with the dullardry and being tod that they are bad for not thinking x that they now actively oppose you.
See also how both sides in the Trans women in sports debate brand the other mysogonists.