Relationships with Other Ranks – your view Op Telic – what a tour…………….. I am a Private ranked soldier. Whilst serving in Iraq I got caught having a personal relationship with a married but separated SNCO. Is this a chargeable offence? As I result, my Squadron Seniors and Officers (who I may add, are personally familiar with this certain situation!) decided that the best way to deal with this, was to send me else where in theatre. Their aim, was for this relationship to end and for us to have no contact with one another until the end of our tour. But, as a result this made our relationship stronger and we are still together now. (We have had our fair share of problems and it hasn’t been the smooth relationship we both hoped). Our Squadron Seniors and Officers were oblivious that we were still in frequent contact. Our Sqn Seniors and Officers are now fully aware that we are in contact. As a result I have been extended in Theatre for an extra month while my partner returns camp. Therefore, we are unable to take any POTL together. It is also inevitable, that on my return to camp I am posted early to a new unit. My overall view of the whole situation is that our squadron has very much over reacted and are continuing to create further problems, even four months later. However, I can see that they initially had to react to this situation in some form, hence their positions in the Rank structure. (I am sure they would have been frowned upon if they were to have done nothing.) But a relationship in the Forces is hard enough, without added unnecessary attention! I think that yet again, the Forces need to re – think and change the way they deal with certain situations – a more modern approach maybe? Who are the Armed Forces Hierarchy to tell you, who you can and cannot have a relationship with? Lessons to be learnt: If you are to get involved with “Other Ranks” trust NO ONE and DON’T GET CAUGHT………….