im 34 with a family and a full time job, i joined the ta to get fit and socialise with new freinds and gain new skills. i have no problem serving 31 days a year but im finding the recruit training time scales demanding and in a mess. phase 1a was ok, phase 1b was demanding on my employer and my family 4 weekends over 8 weeks and then phase1c was booked then cancelled at 8 weeks then employer could not release me for next one. now i have to return to the phase 1b weekends and then hope i can get on phase 1c within the 8 weeks. also they dont try hard enough to keep you together within your unit and with the people you train with. its so hard to keep making friends and build up trust and support only to find you are going to phase 1c on your own. asking this question at my unit gets the response of well can you commit to the ta if you cant quit. i dont need to hear that. does anyone else find the strict training program difficult and if so any advice on a solution as i dont want to quit.