yokel - have you applied for carers aloowance for teh full time care you are giving you mum and have you applied for attendace allowance fro her to assist with equiopment and service costs?
If not, please do so promptly. Attendance allowance is a 34 page form full of repeats designed to wheedle out what the applicant has habituated to as their normal and what is a reasonable everyone else's normal.
Support for carers is also to be had and necessary - it costs councils far less to support a carer with respite than it does to take over complex late lifestage care when the carer goes down. Even knowing yiu have a reliable sitter fro a couple of hours a week so you can go to the gym / pub / cinema / whatever to meet frineds once a week makes a huge difference to coping
Don't know where you are based, but Taking a break - Carers UK
Respite care provides carers with the opportunity to take a break from caring. It is important to take a break from care. Read more from Age UK.www.ageuk.org.uk
Paramedics / A&E / ward staff / social workers drummed this into me
Regrettably I have applied for Carers' Allowance. Until her setbacks a few years ago I was only help as and when, and was able to work part time, even working away for a couple of weeks at a time. Since she has been bedbound I have been a lot more limited in what I can do - and frustratingly I did not get local jobs where the hours would have fitted. Hopefully this will improve when we improve Mum's mobility.
However I do wonder why I cannot work from home - I can think of ways of using my technical background and passion for manufacturing.
As I have hinted at elsewhere the last few years have been pretty brutal for me, and Mum has been a source of support. It would be nice to have friends to meet up with once in a while, but I do not have any. Some of the events of the last few years have made me reassess past relationships and activities.