Please help - boyfriend is depressed

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PrinceAlbert

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Get him to speak to his MO (Doctor). Failing that, the Padre. There are lots of routes available to him.

Failing that, tell him to sign off. If he wants out then it's a safer option that going AWOL, and he'll get some sort of resettlement, instead of a jail sentence.
 
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Has he said why he is depressed to you? (We don't need to know on here the actual reason). Has he contacted his welfare department? Has he signed off?

Start with his unit welfare. They will be used this kind of thing, and have the systems in place to manage it. Also, if he tes the job, he should put his papers in, and strt the process to leave.
 
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Depressed you say? I'm 'effin threadders and i've been serving a lot longer than 4 years!
 
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Going AWOL is most definitely not an option; he effectively becomes a fugitive and will be caught. As already mentioned above, go onto JPA and sign off. I've heard many say that the simple act of crossing the threshold and clicking the button lifts a weight off your shoulders. But still speak to someone.
 

CountryGal

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He does want to leave, said he wants to sign off next week but I think with his emotions being all over the place, it would be the wrong time to make such a life changing decision? He has no qualifications and barely attended school, and so I worry that finding any job would be extremely difficult.
Better he be jobless and a free man than run the risk of prison and more mental anguish - help him out first look at his career path second


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Under the early release scheme he can be out in 3 months...
 
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PrinceAlbert

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So it's a no win situation. Get him to speak to his doctor, and explain how he feels. Get him to take it further if he's not happy.
 

CountryGal

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I know, but if he didn't have a job I think that would significantly affect how he feels as well. I just don't want him to make a rash decision.
So what your asking for is advice that helps your boyfriend but keeps him in a job that is possibly contributing to his mental health worries?

Being unemployed is a challenge but it's not unsurmountable


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When we first met, and for the first year or so we were together the way he spoke about being in the paras- I got the impression it's the best thing he's ever done, and still now sometimes I get that impression, so I feel leaving would be an extremely bad thing to do...
Are you sure that you're not the issue? Do you nag him alot?
 
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I know, but if he didn't have a job I think that would significantly affect how he feels as well. I just don't want him to make a rash decision.
I echo PA's post & getting in Contact with his Unit Padre etc to discuss his situation would be a priority.

The welfare resources are available and sooner these people are aware of the situation the better.
 
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Zarathustra

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Tell him to go sick and to tell the Dr everything.

As for his welfare team, there's a good chance his unit will have a webpage which will probably contain the welfare teams information.
 
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