In BAOR in 1977 I had to attend an air crash , a phantom came down in Dolverden, it ploughed into a row of houses, the only casualty was the pilot, a young pilot of 29, engaged to the be married, out of RAF Bruggan, the devastation was considerable, debris was scattered over an area of many hundreds of yards. On its decent it took out some HT power lines. Having spent 3 days on site, providing power and light, watching the clean up process, and generally making myself useful, I have no illusions at to the destruction that a small plane can do, in comparison to a large cargo or passenger plane, so OUCH, doesn't quite cut it.
Many posters here have had to (and still do) attend such scenes, from Lockerbie to Falklands, NI incidents to motorway RTC's, train incidents to hospital wards and people passing away in their own homes. All are personal tragedies.
Comments that may be considered inappropriate still bounce across the site. It is a way of coping and dealing. We have all had that clenched teeth, this is really going to hurt moment and I have explained why I made that comment. I stand by it because for me it sums up every emotion in those few remaining seconds of life. One of the definitions of the word is: an extremely common term usually uttered by one experiencing physical or emotional pain, suffering or dismay.
I could have used a word beginning with F that has many many usages and would have sufficed however I chose a word that to me meant that teeth clenching, can't look away, sucking air through the teeth moment.
I am sorry if my one word comment hit a personal nerve with you and you considered it trivialising a tragedy. It was not.