Not sure if this is the right place but it's yet another tale of woe about maintainence. I have been paying my ex-wife for the past 14yrs without ever seeing my child and now that I have an ever expanding family (4 with another on the way, I know should have got a tele for the bedroom ) I want to cut the Â£220 that I have paid through private arrangement from my pay every month by allotment book, for the past 14yrs to Â£75 but Glasgow are refusing with little or no explanation. (I hasten to add that did start off by paying her Â£350 pcm until started dating the now Mrs FS). Having been divorced by post, as I was away on operations for 6 months in NI, I had never seen a maintainence order which Glasgow seem to think was issued. On further investigation by current Mrs Firemansam there is no arrangement made through the courts or the CSA so can Glasgow legally stop me from reducing the amount I pay? The court clerk that Mrs spoke to said that there was no need to go to court to ask for a reduction as I could legally stop it if I wished because no maintainence order was ever made, not that he was advocating such action of course! Any help from a pay wallah or someone with experience of this situation would be much appreciated.