Other half leaves your for ...? Which would upset you more?

Which would upset you more?

  • Partner leaves for someone of their gender

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  • Partner leaves for someone of opposite gender

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  • None of the above

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  • MYOFB

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#1
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Nicholson_(East_India_Company_officer)
Nicholson never married, the most significant people in his life being his brother Punjab administrators Sir Henry Lawrence and Herbert Edwardes. At Bannu, Nicholson used to ride one hundred and twenty miles every weekend to spend a few hours with Edwardes, and lived in his beloved friend's house for some time when Edwardes' wife Emma was in England. At his deathbed he dictated a message to Edwardes saying, "Tell him that, if at this moment a good fairy were to grant me a wish, my wish would be to have him here next to my mother." (Trotter 1900) The love between him and Edwardes made them, as Edwardes' wife latter described it,(Trotter 1900) "more than brothers in the tenderness of their whole lives".
I wondered how Edwarde's wife might have felt about this, and in this day and age, if HE and JN had upped-sticks and set up shop together. I know two women whose husbands left them for a man and both felt they would rather have it have been for another woman - being left for a bigger pair of younger boobs is one thing, but the implied snub to their femininity was something else.
 
#2
I disagree, at least if a man left me for another man, I'd know it was nothing I'd done or could have done to change that. If he left me for another woman I'd drive myself crazy thinking it was because she was prettier, slimmer, younger, all of the above...

However, if I thought he'd been shagging a man whilst still with me, I think I'd need to clean my gash out with a brillo pad before I felt clean again so bit of a catch-22?

Known blokes whose ex's had left them for other women, their only gripe seemed to be that they weren't allowed to watch :roll:
 
#3
Grey_Mafia65 said:
I disagree, at least if a man left me for another man, I'd know it was nothing I'd done or could have done to change that. If he left me for another woman I'd drive myself crazy thinking it was because she was prettier, slimmer, younger, all of the above...
Interesting. Would it (and I'm not trying to be stereotypically male here) bother you more if the response was "Actually, you're better looking by far but she can cook superbly and converses intelligently upon topics of interest to me"? (I am, in no way, suggesting you don't do all of these things ... )

However, if I thought he'd been shagging a man whilst still with me, I think I'd need to clean my gash out with a brillo pad before I felt clean again so bit of a catch-22?
I have a surprisingly high sense of physical empathy and I still haven't recovered from that image =(

Known blokes whose ex's had left them for other women, their only gripe seemed to be that they weren't allowed to watch :roll:
And even more upset that they can't participate? :twisted:
 
#4
Its difficult to judge until in the situation.

Bloke leaves for another bloke then you'd feel you've driven him to men and a complete failure as a woman.

Bloke leaves for another woman then you're not good enough...either way you're inadequate!!

Break ups are never easy.
 
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Excognito said:
Grey_Mafia65 said:
I disagree, at least if a man left me for another man, I'd know it was nothing I'd done or could have done to change that. If he left me for another woman I'd drive myself crazy thinking it was because she was prettier, slimmer, younger, all of the above...
Interesting. Would it (and I'm not trying to be stereotypically male here) bother you more if the response was "Actually, you're better looking by far but she can cook superbly and converses intelligently upon topics of interest to me"? (I am, in no way, suggesting you don't do all of these things ... )
That person doesn't exist :wink:

Excognito
However, if I thought he'd been shagging a man whilst still with me, I think I'd need to clean my gash out with a brillo pad before I felt clean again so bit of a catch-22?
I have a surprisingly high sense of physical empathy and I still haven't recovered from that image =(
Apologies :D
 

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