I wondered how Edwarde's wife might have felt about this, and in this day and age, if HE and JN had upped-sticks and set up shop together. I know two women whose husbands left them for a man and both felt they would rather have it have been for another woman - being left for a bigger pair of younger boobs is one thing, but the implied snub to their femininity was something else.
Nicholson never married, the most significant people in his life being his brother Punjab administrators Sir Henry Lawrence and Herbert Edwardes. At Bannu, Nicholson used to ride one hundred and twenty miles every weekend to spend a few hours with Edwardes, and lived in his beloved friend's house for some time when Edwardes' wife Emma was in England. At his deathbed he dictated a message to Edwardes saying, "Tell him that, if at this moment a good fairy were to grant me a wish, my wish would be to have him here next to my mother." (Trotter 1900) The love between him and Edwardes made them, as Edwardes' wife latter described it,(Trotter 1900) "more than brothers in the tenderness of their whole lives".