Opinion and Advice needed

Discussion in 'Join the Army - Reserve Recruitment' started by easer, Jun 26, 2011.

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  1. I've been wanting to join the TA for the past 2 years. I even filled out my application and went for the medical. But 3 weeks before my selection weekend I was told that I had to move out of my flat because the owners were selling up, and with my very low budget I had no luck in finding a place to move in to. The stress that it caused made me feel terrible and as if I had no time to do the selection weekend since I had to use every second I had to look for a place to live ( something that was a lot harder than I thought since I'm just out of uni and had no proof of employment.

    So with all the stress I decided that I couldn't do the selection weekend- a mistake really because the day before the selection weekend I managed to find a place to move into, just 3 days before I was going to be kicked out of my flat- so if I hadnt cancelled my selection I would have been able to go for it, but it seemed like the right thing to do at the time.

    Anyway, like I said, I have wanted to join for about 2 years now, but it s always a bit difficult, first with uni getting in the way, then everything else. It made me question whether or not the TA was a good idea since although the commitment is technically " whenever you can come for training come- minimum 27 days) basic training seemed to include a lot of training weekends that you just cannot miss. Also, since I ve had to cancel my application (actually it s the second time I ve had to cancel) I guess I ve given the wrong impression. I had wanted to do the Summer Challenge 2011, but I guess I've missed all chances for that now.

    But have I messed up my chances of joining completely? What should be my next step. I feel silly going to the TAC AGAIN, not in uniform AGAIN, and just hanging out AGAIN. It makes me feel like a hanger-on.
  2. When you feel settled, join. As you've recognised, the first year will probably be the most demanding of your time. Once you're properly in, you'll have more chance to pick and choose weekends to suit your other commitments. If those other commitments still won't let you attend the required number of weekends, there's the nationally-recruited (Specialist) TA to consider (but beware, although there's fewer days to do, there's less option to pick and choose them).

    If you feel awkward about going back to the same TAC after messing them about twice, try a different TAC or go Specialist.
  3. So how did this amount to two years worth of trying? I understand your accommodation crisis but "uni and everything else"...? I'm not sure if you're just making excuses for being indecisive about joining.

    But if you're set on it I agree with puttee, go to a different TAC if it'll make things easier.
  4. Uni was very demanding since I had to be in from 9 till 9 almost every day, so had little spare time. I even had to say that I had some sort of appointment just to go down to visit the TAC.

    I know it comes across as indecisive, that is what I was worrying about.

    I just wasn't sure if being cautious about when I join was not needed, and I ll end up missing out for no reason.
  5. Just be up front and make sure it's the right time for you.....by that i mean, work life, personal/family life and social life are geared up for you taking on the extra commitment....good luck
  6. Join the regulars. The commitment/time/place to live dilemmas you have with all be sorted out in one fell swoop!
  7. thanks for the advice. I still want to join up. Whenever I miss a chance I think I ll get over it but I keep coming back to it.
  8. Well, which would have been better? What I did/doing, or joining and then barely being able to turn up?
  9. I just want the opportunity to sit down with someone and have a solid talk about it so that I can know where I stand. thats all.
  10. So go to your nearest stab centre, they will give you what you need to know.
  11. Hey, you're among friends here so let's be open and share on this one. You sound like someone in need of guidance and advice. So here goes. The Army doesn't give a flying **** about your issues. No-one cares. I doubt anyone you talk to will know or care about your earlier applications, and if they do they still won't care.

    You might also consider that of going back to the TAC you've visited previously is giving you issues then how the **** will you cope with basic and going on ops ? So either grow a pair and JFDI or stop whining, it's boring now. You could be in, trained and feeling good in two years time or you could be still agonising about it. Your call.