Officer-Soldier Socialising

Discussion in 'Officers' started by Superchippy, Jun 11, 2012.

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  1. Gents & Ladies,

    A quick question for you;

    can a soldier from a different unit socialise with an officer in their respective mess? Obviously out of uniform and not in a military capacity? The Soldier in question is a graduate and public school educated, to clarify social etiquette etc..

    Your thoughts?
  2. Most definitely not. Do you think it right that servants socialise with their masters?
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  3. Why do you think I don't go out on the town with Mrs EDM?

    No, seriously, there needs to be that gap between officers and soldiers to enable the smooth running of British army standards.
  4. Why would they lower their standards and go in to the Officer's Mess? Do they like career laughing and talking shop?
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  5. They get to shag them in the RLC!
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  6. Auld-Yin

    Auld-Yin LE Reviewer Book Reviewer Reviews Editor

    But the soldier is not Her Majesty's "Trusted and Well Beloved......."

    So no, unless it is WO & Sgts to Offrs Mess for Christmas drinks.
  7. But meeting off camp is not a problem, I had a school chum, Cpl Pilot AAC, same camp, different messes, so beers in town.
  8. 'Fraid it is a problem. Demonstrates both a lack of integrity and an absolute failure to understand the importance of focussing on success rather than failure.
  9. Only if both parties realise that once back 'at work' it is 'business as usual'.
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  10. Possibly correct, but the problem disappeared once the last of the WRAC cohort retired.
  11. Do you mean my failure to only make it into the RTR or his success graduating from windscreen cleaner to Pilot? Not sure about the integrity bit, lost me a bit on that one.
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  12. Sounds like some on here would probably call their officers 'Sir' on the sportsfield as well?

    A sign of maturity and respect is being able to differentiate between work and play although I don't think it would be good form to invite a soldier into the Officers Mess, but on the other hand, it's the same Mess that civil servants get to use as part of their 'perks' so it's not all that special is it?
  13. Only bloke we called Sir on the pitch was the Ref.
  14. It is a fair question, in the days of National Service and Conscription, not all who could be officer's wanted to be officer's, they still got together on time off etc.

    In the 18th. and 19th. centuries you had Gentlemen Volunteers, rankers who lived in the Mess.

    Finally you have the modern equivalentlant in the HAC, now they do have some very peculiar practices.
  15. If the officer is female, the shagging continues to this day, in abundance!