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#1
ok,
I have looked around in here for a while due to my partner being in the army and this seemed the logical place to post my question.
 
#2
Personally I would tell him straight away.

He is probably feeling very fed-up at the moment and homesick and I think the news will both cheer him up and give him something to look forward to on his return.

He left one person he loves and will return to two.

You will, as the one who knows him best, do what your heart tells you!
 
#3
Tell him soon as you can, its best in the long run and is always a good ray of sun shine and something to look forward to in addition to coming home.
All the best to you and good luck.
 
#4
evetta said:
ok,
I have looked around in here for a while due to my partner being in the army and this seemed the logical place to post my question.

My boyfriend went away on ops recently, and I found out yesterday I was pregnant. Yes it's his, and No I haven't trapped him as we've discussed it and we both agreed to let nature take it's course.

I'm just faced with a dilemma, and that is when is the best time to tell him??
do I do it next time we speak/by letter/wait until r and r/his tour finishes?

the reason i'm so unsure is because I don't want to take his mind off what he's meant to be doing and thus make mistakes, but at the end of the day I want him to know as soon as possible, so we can plan our next course of action.

If any soldiers are reading this I would appreciate your take on what you would want your girlfriend to do if she was in the same boat as me.

Thanks :)

Evetta, I'm not British, but here's how I would want it. I would like to be told when the time is right. Say, when he is on furlough for a day or two. He won't be as distracted then, and will be able to think more clearly, and have a clear dialogue with you then. I hope I could help.
 
#6
gearupflapup said:
Tell him soon as you can, its best in the long run and is always a good ray of sun shine and something to look forward to in addition to coming home.
All the best to you and good luck.
It will keep his head down further and give him 2 good reasons for coming home safe and sound...................
 

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#7
congrats too
 
#8
BTW, congrats to you and your little one to be! That's an awesome event to cherish!
 
#9
evetta said:
ok,
I have looked around in here for a while due to my partner being in the army and this seemed the logical place to post my question.

My boyfriend went away on ops recently, and I found out yesterday I was pregnant. Yes it's his, and No I haven't trapped him as we've discussed it and we both agreed to let nature take it's course.

I'm just faced with a dilemma, and that is when is the best time to tell him??
do I do it next time we speak/by letter/wait until r and r/his tour finishes?

the reason i'm so unsure is because I don't want to take his mind off what he's meant to be doing and thus make mistakes, but at the end of the day I want him to know as soon as possible, so we can plan our next course of action.

If any soldiers are reading this I would appreciate your take on what you would want your girlfriend to do if she was in the same boat as me.

Thanks :)
Congratulations Evetta,

Having a baby is a very personal and sensitive time for a young couple so the best thing to do to is tell everyone you possibly can and ask them when they think you should tell the father who is across the other side of the planet probebly logged onto ARRSE right now. It's a stroke of genius. Well done.
 
#10
Downes said:
Congratulations Evetta,

Having a baby is a very personal and sensitive time for a young couple so the best thing to do to is tell everyone you possibly can and ask them when they think you should tell the father who is across the other side of the planet probebly logged onto ARRSE right now. It's a stroke of genius. Well done.
Downes, is your surname Syndrome???

Evetta,

Ignore this idiot. Congratulations!! If it were me, I would want to know as soon as possible. All the best!
 
#11
Go with your heart, Evetta, go with your heart!
 
#12
the_matelot said:
Downes said:
Congratulations Evetta,

Having a baby is a very personal and sensitive time for a young couple so the best thing to do to is tell everyone you possibly can and ask them when they think you should tell the father who is across the other side of the planet probebly logged onto ARRSE right now. It's a stroke of genius. Well done.
Downes, is your surname Syndrome???

Evetta,

Ignore this idiot. Congratulations!! If it were me, I would want to know as soon as possible. All the best!
That's my point knob-cheese. She's asking everone else first! What do you suggest, a subtle mention on BFBS radio or a column in Soldier Magazine? (Anywhere that her partner is unlikey to look/hear.) P.S. Are you a dumb-ass blonde chick?
 
#13
Downes said:
the_matelot said:
Downes said:
Congratulations Evetta,

Having a baby is a very personal and sensitive time for a young couple so the best thing to do to is tell everyone you possibly can and ask them when they think you should tell the father who is across the other side of the planet probebly logged onto ARRSE right now. It's a stroke of genius. Well done.
Downes, is your surname Syndrome???

Evetta,

Ignore this idiot. Congratulations!! If it were me, I would want to know as soon as possible. All the best!
That's my point knob-cheese. She's asking everone else first! What do you suggest, a subtle mention on BFBS radio or a column in Soldier Magazine? (Anywhere that her partner is unlikey to look/hear.) P.S. Are you a dumb-ass blonde chick?
So what you are saying, Downes is that evetta is obviously her real name and she has already blown her cover by revealing so much information? Ie shes up the duff. That will narrow it down to approx 1000 squaddie wives/girlfriends whos other half is deployed. Yep, shes blown it.

Mong.
 
#14
Downes said:
That's my point knob-cheese. She's asking everone else first! What do you suggest, a subtle mention on BFBS radio or a column in Soldier Magazine? (Anywhere that her partner is unlikey to look/hear.) P.S. Are you a dumb-ass blonde chick?
You are a troll of fcuking epic proportions. Wind your fcuking neck in you window licker.

As Flashy has stated, how the fcuk has she given her real identity?

Go play with the traffic retard.
 
#16
#17
You don't see the irony do you? Sarcasm is elusive isn't it? Wit is not in your DNA is it? What I'm OBVIOUSLY saying you two feck-wits is that when her partner comes home, and she tells her partner that she told the world first he'll probably be right pissed off with her and for dumb-ass sensitive blonde chicks like you for encouraging her. Then how many birds are up the duff and whatever her real name is will not matter will it? (And since every bloke on this thread has said he'd like to know right away then no doubt her partner would like to have known first also.) Wise up you tarts.
 
#18
Downes said:
Are you a dumb-ass blonde chick?
No - thats me, I claimed the title years ago, so f uck off troll.

Evetta, tell him, he will keep a happy in his tummy for the rest of his tour and have something to come back to. Do well.

Sluggy xx
 
#20
Downes said:
You don't see the irony do you? Sarcasm is elusive isn't it? Wit is not in your DNA is it? What I'm OBVIOUSLY saying you two feck-wits is that when her partner comes home, and she tells her partner that she told the world first he'll probably be right pissed off with her and for dumb-ass sensitive blonde chicks like you for encouraging her. Then how many birds are up the duff and whatever her real name is will not matter will it? (And since every bloke on this thread has said he'd like to know right away then no doubt her partner would like to have known first also.) Wise up you tarts.
You have had a warning, f uck off.
 

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