I appreciate that I am asking for relationship advice on the Arrse website and will probably cop a lot of abuse but I dont care if you take the proverbial. However, this is not a wah or a windup but a genuine appeal for alternative perspectives. I am posting on an anonymous site for advice as a former infantry officer. My problem is this. I am in my early 40s and I got engaged about four years ago and my partner became pregnant almost immediately and since then I have been stuck in a celibate relationship and all we ever do is argue. I was married for thirteen years before this relationship but this is my and my current partners only kid. Current Partner We started rowing as soon as she got pregnant despite the fact that I was bringing plenty of money into the house and went she went mental with post natal depression after our son was born. Our son is a lovely kid and as cute as a button. She is fairly smart and well educated but she is teetotal, was a vegetarian and was diagnosed with OCD years ago which means that she is very dogmatic and reacts to my fairly robust manner angrily. She was very good looking when we first met she let herself go big time after the kid was born. Current Relationship We have had sex once since the child was born. We have shouting matches everyday and now drink more than I should and am bloody miserable and angry most of the time. Impact upon me My career is in tatters, I have been fired from two executive jobs since the kid was born as I became very bad tempered at work after copping a lot of abuse at home and found dealing with idiots/dodgy bastards at work combined with the crap at home was driving me mental and had an adverse impact upon my health. Fortunately, I still make good money but I am not getting ahead. What I have tried so far I have tried the following: Counselling was like a re run of WW2. A few months working overseas, enjoyed the peace and quiet but missed the kid too much. Reasoning with her. Throwing money at the problem, expensive holidays, dinners and jewellery but it always ends in rows. My dilemma I dont want to walk out on her and the kid until I have exhausted every avenue but am at my wits end after three years. Has anybody dealt with a similar situation and how did you cope? Any suggestions or ideas welcome.