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Ok, i was joining the regular army as infantry, i got my date for selection after passing initial medical with the doc, i then got into a serious relationship and started my A Levels.

Im still in that relationship..in love i guess you could say but my passion to joing up is just as strong, im confused, ive started A Levels (AS) im in this long term loving relationship but i want to join up.

If it wernt for the partner id join up ASAP but thats stopping me, and being with her..yes her! the same time as been in the army will be tough work as ive read!!!

I need some worldly advise the the arrse crew..

thanks :?
 
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fluffer said:
Ok, i was joining the regular army as infantry, i got my date for selection after passing initial medical with the doc, i then got into a serious relationship and started my A Levels.

Im still in that relationship..in love i guess you could say but my passion to joing up is just as strong, im confused, ive started A Levels (AS) im in this long term loving relationship but i want to join up.

If it wernt for the partner id join up ASAP but thats stopping me, and being with her..yes her! the same time as been in the army will be tough work as ive read!!!

I need some worldly advise the the arrse crew..

thanks :?

Is she fit? Care to provide a picture?

Just to help with judging what course of action you should take...
 
#5
i knew there would be a request for a photo, ever since the old-school thread of the not so faithful girlfriend..

which scares me, we have been together 10 months now, but i want to go into york regiment and i live in leicester.

I know i will regret not doing it, and i need a good hard think, but any more suggestions or advise, maybe from people who have been in that situation? id be more than grateful.
 
#6
FFS you're what 17? Do you really think the girl you're with now is the same one you'll be with when you're 20? Or 30? Or 40? Because the Army'll take you there.

It doesn't really matter what regiment you join you're unlikely to spend your entire career within half an hour of Leicester. And why would you want to?

Man up. :roll:
 
#7
Thanks for your biased advise, i know what im going to do, join up, i'll still try keep it going, you know, i might not pass selection!! Hopefuly next post will be of my getting messed up with the paper work or something..
 
#9
These A Levels, I take it they are not for English? Seriously, we have all been in that position at some stage or other, some have even left over a so called serious relationship only for it to end some time after; they invariably end up wanting to re-join. Only you can decide if you want to join up but my advice, for what it is worth, is to complete your A Levels first and then join.

If you are intent on joining now and your relationship does fail (it may not) then as codename1157 points out there is no shortage of fanny.
 
#10
Only tell her the night before you leave for the ATR (if then) or send her a card from Pirbright start it Dear Jane :D
 
#11
oh yes what a horrible situation :roll:

i'm actually living abroad and have most my mates, belongings and the best gf you could possibly imagine (she's fit too) here and i'll be leaving everything behind to join the army.

i suppose it's harder for some than for others
 
#12
My EX boyfriend told me if I joined the army he would leave me, so I just said f*** you then!

Simple as...

If she cares about you she will be willing to support your choice as you obviously want it so much, if not then shes just selfish and only really cares about herself

JOIN! because you will regret it a few years down the line if you decide to split
 
#13
I went through a very similar situation mate. Last january was supposed to go for my 2nd interview, changed my mind about joining over a girl. regretted it staight away. luckily for me she binned me off in april. staright into careers office told them what i twat i had been. start phase 1 next month. You will only regret it if you dont join. Unless she is the daughter of some russian billionaire.
 
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fluffer said:
Ok, i was joining the regular army as infantry, i got my date for selection after passing initial medical with the doc, i then got into a serious relationship and started my A Levels.

Im still in that relationship..in love i guess you could say but my passion to joing up is just as strong, im confused, ive started A Levels (AS) im in this long term loving relationship but i want to join up.

If it wernt for the partner id join up ASAP but thats stopping me, and being with her..yes her! the same time as been in the army will be tough work as ive read!!!

I need some worldly advise the the arrse crew..

thanks :?
Made the mistake of taking a females needs over my own a long time ago, never got to fulfil my childhood dreams of being a regular soldier, IMHO, its what you want that matters mate..but only you can make the decision

good luck
 
#15
Join the infantry mate, you will not regret it.
 
#16
Go for it mate, as has been said before in this thread, and will continue to be said by the members of this site to everyone that asks this question...
If she is 'the one', she will support you in what you choose to do. If she doesn't, then you shouldn't be with her anyway. Long distance relationships aren't impossible you know! Just about everyone in the Army has had one or is in one, so long as you two are right for each other, it will work out regardless of you being in the army or not, right?
It's your life at the end of the day, you need to do whatever it takes to get what you want out of it. If she can't take that you want to join up and starts getting all menstrual and emotional, then trade her in and get with someone that will support you no matter what.
 
#17
Go for the army. If she loves you she'll understand for sure, if she's against it for reasons other than "But i don't want you getting hurt", then it's more than likely you'll have split up soon anyway.

(Non-biased point of view here, still a civvie :L)
 
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fluffer said:
Ok, i was joining the regular army as infantry, i got my date for selection after passing initial medical with the doc, i then got into a serious relationship and started my A Levels.

Im still in that relationship..in love i guess you could say but my passion to joing up is just as strong, im confused, ive started A Levels (AS) im in this long term loving relationship but i want to join up.

If it wernt for the partner id join up ASAP but thats stopping me, and being with her..yes her! the same time as been in the army will be tough work as ive read!!!

I need some worldly advise the the arrse crew..

thanks :?
 
#20
My brother was always mad (yes, mad bearing in mind the unit) to join the RAF regt and got serious with a local girl. Consequently, he binned joining and to my mind has regretted it ever since. Personally, I think he had a near miss...
 
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