'Hello mum, this is going to be hard for you to read ...' - Home News - UK - The Independent I was going to apologise in case this had been posted before, but sod it, it needs to be posted often to remind cold war warriors like myself what the consequences are for those families who see their 19 year old sons go to war. I read his final letter to his family and thanked god that my son (9 not 19) was upstairs in bed pretending to be asleep but actually reading under his quilt. Even now I have quiet moments when I consider how I would react if he comes to me in 7 short years and says "I want to join the army." How could I deny him something that i loved and still miss just because I might have to read a letter like the one above. I couldn't but I dread the thought even though the unpleasantness in afghanistan should be over by then. I think about the poor sod who wrote that letter. He paid a final tribute to a family that raised him the best way he knew how. The terrible spelling and grammar make it all the more poignant. This kid was never going to be a brain surgeon and being a soldier was his way of making the best of himself.