Looking around the forums I am saddened to see so many comments regarding attendance. Gaining promotion to the Sgtâs Mess used to be something we all aspired to and when I was promoted to Sgt my RSM told me âyou only get out of the Mess what you put in to the Messâ. Too many of the posts on the forum tell of being âforced to attend thisâ¦â and âcan I be made to attend thatâ¦â. It seems to me that too many people fail to engage in the whole Mess culture and as a result have a very jaundiced view of what can and can not be gained from membership. My question is this: Is the segregation of ranks by Mess still relevant in todayâs military or should it be replaced by something else?