Wonder if anyone can help? A mate that I served with seems to be having a few issues which I believe are related to his service. Nothing life-threatening, and most of the time he's completely normal (or as normal as any ex-squaddie!), but if we go for a drink he seems constantly on edge - Obsessively looking around, standing with his back to the wall and never relaxing. Walking through the town with him is like being on patrol. It's difficult to hold a conversation as he's very tense and seems 'focussed' on the task at hand. Not sure if I've explained this problem sufficiently well, but it certainly isn't normal. This 'tenseness' has also caused him to 'snap' at his missis a couple of times. He's never physically hurt her, but it's still out of character and risks screwing up his relationship. I believe that he'd see a counsellor of some description, but: a) He won't pay for it. b) He won't let me pay for it. c) He won't do anything which could end up on his medical record. Any suggestions?