Marrying in to the army

#4
I married the Army 20 years ago. It was fantastic. Then I got a wife.
 
#5
Shes right dont do it, its total crap bad thing is you will never see your other half because he will always be away trust me best thing too do is go and find a civvy hubby but if you love him just stick it out ...good thing about it is you will make alot of friends (other wifes) well maybe because some wifes are really stuck up
 
#6
Well to be honest, i recon your kind of wrong. My fiance never goes away really, only on exercise for a couple of weeks.
When he does go on tour i'll be fine, coz we'll have a home, and it will damn better than living two hours away from each other.
If you don't like the army life, why did you marry in to it?

:)
 
#7
Come back in a couple of years after your husband has screwed his way through op tours and then we will see how rosy your views are on 'army life'

Cynical? Yes I am.
 
#11
Lucky fella if he only does the odd exercise what's he been upto when the rest of the army have been playing in the sand pit and the rest of the fly blown placed across the world.

I left the army with a heavy heart to marry my wife, depends on what type of person you are as to whether it will work for you and to where you are likely to be posted. If you have a half decent brain in your head and want some sort of worthwhile career think about it very carefully.

and on a last note having a home that isn't 2 hours away from your partner will mean nothing when he eventually does do a tour and it's 6months between visits.
 
#12
No, I had a 5 year relationship and one son with a soldier.

Please dont give me the old line about wives being more important than girlfriends either luv, my relationship lasted longer than most squaddie marriages.

Believe me, there isn't one squaddie I know, including my ex, who hasnt screwed about behind his wife/girlfriends back....it's par for the course so prepare yourself.




I have just re-read this and I sound like a right cynical cow, but I have had about 2 hours sleep and not in the best of moods, so fcuk it. I'm posting it anyway :roll: :D
 
#13
I wasn't going to give you a line about being a girlfriend. If we had a normal civi relationship maybe we probably wouldn't be getting married yet, we would probably plan it further away. Although we aren't just marrying out of convenience.

And i think you might be stereotyping army blokes a bit too much, and im sure i know my fiance a lot better than you, and he's more frightened about me leaving him. And to be fair, he probably won't stick the army. Not all blokes are bad, and i know plenty of my fiances army friends who are decent blokes and wouldn't **** around.

Perhaps you need to be a bit more happy?

:D
 
#14
IMHO, it will be better if you have your own home (we do) and so you really do "go home" each day, not stay inside the wire.

Remember though you will always come second to the Army (where he works, how long he is away etc) and so you should brace yourself for a number of disappointments there.

All in all though you will have a great social life and the welfare system can be top notch if "your" unit has it sorted as it should be.
 
#15
Yeah i know i come second, have done since we first met. And i am prepared for the opertional tours, as he may go away next year for quite a long time. But i am good at occupying myself and i will have a job etc, so im sure time will eventually pass.

Thanks for your happier response.

:D
 
#16
Hey Tarly married life in the Army is OK I should know I have been there twice. The quarters are good especially in Germany cheap cars and stuff cheap accommodation. The welfare office of your husbands unit look after you when your husband does eventually go away on operational tour and he will I shit you not I have spent 9 years on ops out of 23. We have stuck it out as my wife is a gem. If your husband does go away dont listen to any gossip the enemy is within (other army wives) with nothing better to do than gossip about husbands who are away on tours and talk about you on their coffee mornings. Get yourself a job and keep occupied you will be sorted.

Good Luck

Tazzer
 
#18
zippy483 said:
Lucky fella if he only does the odd exercise what's he been upto when the rest of the army have been playing in the sand pit and the rest of the fly blown placed across the world.

I left the army with a heavy heart to marry my wife, depends on what type of person you are as to whether it will work for you and to where you are likely to be posted. If you have a half decent brain in your head and want some sort of worthwhile career think about it very carefully.

and on a last note having a home that isn't 2 hours away from your partner will mean nothing when he eventually does do a tour and it's 6months between visits.
Hi Zippy483,

He hasn't been on many exercises, coz his camp is kinda rubbish. Although, since his new LT, he has done a lot more exercises.

And having a home will make a difference, maybe not to you, but being where i am when he goes away i feel really lonely, but when we have a house, it will both ours so i won't feel as bad! You wouldn't understand.
 
#19
I've been married for 14 years, 13 different houses, lots of op tours, excersises, courses etc and I think it is a great life. You need to be independant, sociable and flexible, yes the army does come first, but it's up to your bloke to make sure you come a close second. My experience is that army wives make great friends and accept you for what you are. Most wives just learn to cope, though the welfare and compassionate system has not let us down on the few occaisions we needed it. There is no hierarchy amongst wives anymore cos we are all too sensible to accept it. I would reccomend giving patch life a go, at least then you are all in the same boat.
 
#20
WhiteHall_Wales said:
I've been married for 14 years, 13 different houses, lots of op tours, excersises, courses etc and I think it is a great life. You need to be independant, sociable and flexible, yes the army does come first, but it's up to your bloke to make sure you come a close second. My experience is that army wives make great friends and accept you for what you are. Most wives just learn to cope, though the welfare and compassionate system has not let us down on the few occaisions we needed it. There is no hierarchy amongst wives anymore cos we are all too sensible to accept it. I would reccomend giving patch life a go, at least then you are all in the same boat.
Thats what i imagine it to be like, and i am loking forward to it, just thought i'd see what other people think of it.
I think a change of scenery every few years will be nice, and i sure am independent.
 
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