Can anyone tell me why I meet such tossers? I met a guy who in the forces last year we got on really well and a relationship ensued. It suited me fine, him away and not in my face 24/7 Thats fine for me as I work long and hard for periods of time, but I was faithful. I then discover he was married (the lying bar steward) and all was not how it appeared! I really dont know how I was taken in for so long I guess its something to do with the fact that Im not Military so actually believed the tales of working late, every weekend and the responsibilities of an Officer and dinners etc. etc. and the fact that I work strange shift patterns too. At 45 I should know better, but knowing better makes one wonder if its possible to trust any of them. Maybe I should resign myself to the fact that at my age Im not going to meet anyone 45 and back on the shelf. Any thoughts?? other than Im feeling sorry for myself this morning!