Looking to finally get in!

#1
Afternoon All!

First post on here (and a bit of a lengthy one), so please bear with me…
From an early age I’d always planned to join the Army and never thought of any other career choice. I joined the cadets as soon as I was old enough just so that I could get my ‘green-fix’, and then eventually started through the application process the minute I was out of school.
Unfortunately, I was knocked back on medical grounds: Reynauds disease!
13yrs later, and here I am sat at my desk in a well paid but dead-end IT Management role, with zero job satisfaction.

Throughout all my working years, I’ve always wished that there was still some way I could get into the Army – and recently started talking to my doctor as I’d noticed that what my parents felt they saw as ‘symptoms’ when I was a child, have not seemed to occur in me throughout my entire adult life. A few appointments later, and Mr Doctor tells me that the Reynauds was a mis-diagnosis!
- I bet you can see where the story is about to head…

So, with the knowledge that I would now be deemed as medically fit for the Army, I started looking more closely at what options I’d had.
I was worried about my age – then the age limits went up. I was also concerned about the impact it may have on my family – then that relationship broke down anyway.
The last hurdle I felt was almost impossible to jump was the financial issues. At 29 yrs old in civvy street, you tend to have gathered a fair few commitments – commitments which I couldn’t imagine meeting on the basic (£13k) starting salary for a new soldier. However recently through circumstances beyond my control I’ve been railroaded toward the slip-road leading to bankruptcy – although it’s a hard path, the one saving grace is that at the end of it I’ll have no financial commitments apart from my 2 children.

All in all, the hurdles have fallen and I can see that in the next 12-18months I’m going to have nothing further to hold me back – so am looking to start readying myself for a big decision on the future.
I’m 29 now, and would be 30 at the time I’d be looking to enlist – I’d be going for the Infantry (Para’s, or Rifles), purely because that’s just where my heart has always been. I see this as a real opportunity to finally tread the path I always wished I was able to, and have plenty of time to move my fitness to where it needs to be also.

BUT – I have a question;

– Although I know I’d be designated as “single” and therefore likely be bundled into shared accommodation once (eventually) in my chosen regiment – would I have any opportunity to apply for private quarters on the basis that I’d like to have my kids with me for any weekends off? Or would I simply have to push plans forward with my girlfriend (who’s fully supportive on this, and would even be willing to relocate with me if necessary), and marry her quick-smart in order that I’d be eligible for married quarters?

I’ve tried asking my local AFCO – but they’re pretty uninterested to be honest…

Obviously me finally being able to sign up – and actually doing so, is going to be a fairly big lifestyle change for me. Therefore it’s something I’ve thought long and hard about for many weeks/months, and am taking very seriously indeed.

Thanks in advance for any help you guys can offer…
 
#2
i admire your devotion and dedication to the job, however, I cant offer any info / advice on that, all I can say is if youre happy doing so, getting married is the only way to get married quarters (funnily enough)
 
#3
Married Quarters are only available for married personnel,but there are Welfare Quarters at some locations that can be rented for weekends with your kids,through the Army Welfare Service.
 
#4
im in the process of joining, i have an 8 month old daughter.

myself and her mother are'nt married but i might propose to her after my training. to be honest i dont know if id survive 24/7 in the same house as her but id like to see my daughter every day.


but then, i believe you can apply for a council house if you are in the armed forces which means you could have a home near to where you are based
 
#5
I am 27 and joining with 2 kids 3 and 2yrs. I have been with the mother for 6 years almost! We are getting married at some point during my training (ie: weekend home)

My ACO told me that I can apply for marriage quarters with the 2 kids but should there be a shortage in housing Married personnel would get priority. How true that is I don't know?

I have to wait until I start training until I know what or when I get any leave during the 24 weeks before we can arrange any wedding?
 

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