Let's discuss Autism

Son diagnosed 13 years ago, now 24, in some ways he's 10. Special schools, PIP, ESA, not able to work.

Daughter diagnosed 5 years ago, now 27, married, just about coping.

Wife diagnosed 4 years ago, Almost 50, registered carer for son. Knowing explains a lot.

Son, diagnosed a few months ago, now 19. Fairly neurotypical, but has his ways and cannot handle deviation.

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Son got diagnosed with autism and severe ADHD. We went private to speed things along so he’s got his diagnosis before the age of 5 which helps a lot and also explains a lot.

the paediatrician in her wash up meeting with SWMBO mentioned I had both as well. (She picked that up in about 30 seconds)

before this I put it down to us being bad parents.

my wife some it up though, we’ve lost the son we had hoped for but gained another gem instead.
 
Son got diagnosed with autism and severe ADHD. We went private to speed things along so he’s got his diagnosis before the age of 5 which helps a lot and also explains a lot.

the paediatrician in her wash up meeting with SWMBO mentioned I had both as well. (She picked that up in about 30 seconds)

before this I put it down to us being bad parents.

my wife some it up though, we’ve lost the son we had hoped for but gained another gem instead.
What you said about using a son and gaining a gem, I like that!

I hate the tag "special needs" which is often used to "tag" autistic life and we prefer in our house to say they have "special powers" instead and both sun and daughter much prefer that.
 
In Israel from 1989 I worked for five and a half years in a closed unit in a psychiatric hospital housing autistic adults, young an old. The reason they were in hospital in those days was because the older guys were autistic when the term was barely known or recognized, rather it was called infantile schizophrenia - hence they remained in the care of the health ministry. The reason it was a closed unit was because of the issue of violence - self harm and harm to others.
It was a fascinating experience which I could write more about except I'm busy at work right now.
I read the IDF actively uses the autistic due to their rather useful skillsets...



Brilliant.
 

daz

LE
I got 40 out of 50.
Your score was 28 out of a possible 50.


Scores in the 26-32 range indicate some Autistic traits (Asperger's Syndrome).

Border line then, or it could be, I just don't like most people
 

4(T)

LE
14. I guess thats why i am Mr Dull with no burning obsessions in life.


I imagine that we are all somewhere on a 3-dimensional distribution curve of mental traits; most of us being in the central hump that evolution has decided is optimum for socialising and surviving, and many others off to the edges and so further along the autistic spectrum.

Perhaps, given the specialised outputs of some autistic people, evolution intended a few to provide society with advances in science, mathematics, train spotting, etc?

I think autism and related conditions are probably far more widespread than is believed. I was sat in the "memory clinic" with my father undergoing his Alzheimer's assessment and diagnosis. The clinician reeled off a long list of my father's responses and characteristics that were typical of dementia symptoms - to which I had to reply many times "he's always been like that" .

Apart from the confirmation of dementia, it was concluded that my father had had some form of "higher autism" his entire life. This indeed explained many of the particularly exasperating or poignant aspects of his character that I had grown up with.

p.s. my third party experience of NHS mental health services is that they appear to be very poor quality. The practitioners i met either seemed to have no particular insight other than might be held by a normal adult person, or they were of an ethnic group that might be missing cultural indicators in other ethnic groups.
 
I like my routine. I have a certain way of doing things and I don't deviate from that.

I have a photographic memory especially for faces and places. I only have to see a face once and I'll recognise it again years down the line. I only have to drive to a place once and I'll know how to get there again without a map or sat nav.
I have exactly the same I thing as Old Stab with faces, I only need to see a face once and I will recognise it hours, days or weeks after, if I come across the person again.
Same goes for places and driving...I only have to go somewhere once and I can remember exactly how to get there again without a map etc even years later, unless changes to the buildings on route happen.
i can’t remember names or road names, I am crap at maths and I struggle with noisy rooms with lots of people talking. My brother has similar traits but less so but he is severely dyslexic.

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scored 39/50
 

HE117

LE
Oh come on.. has nobody noticed the Green Slime are "different"?

We had someone brief my university department some years ago (computing) on Asperger's. After explaining how you could identify the signs someone piped up "well that describes all of the staff, so what are we supposed to do about it?"
 

4(T)

LE
Oh come on.. has nobody noticed the Green Slime are "different"?

We had someone brief my university department some years ago (computing) on Asperger's. After explaining how you could identify the signs someone piped up "well that describes all of the staff, so what are we supposed to do about it?"

I've worked across multiple industries, and can't be the only person to notice that certain industries or functions have a high incidence of people who are on the one hand very focussed on their job, but on the other have extremely poor management /social skills. A lot of these functions tend to be with numbers or data.
 
Give this a try when U have a moment guys:


I got a 41 out of 50
I got 16.

My youngest daughter (20) was diagnosed with Aspergers/ASD about 5 years ago. Looking at a lot of those questions i can see how they relate to her. She can be a bloody nightmare sometimes.
 
What you said about using a son and gaining a gem, I like that!

I hate the tag "special needs" which is often used to "tag" autistic life and we prefer in our house to say they have "special powers" instead and both sun and daughter much prefer that.
Agreed. My lad outperforms most of his peers but won’t sit still in lessons and won’t do what he’s told.

now we have the diagnosis it's helpful to get the support he needs .

what truly shocks me though is if you’re from a working class background you’re f**ked as you’re unlikely to be able to get private diagnosis, push for the resources you’re entitled to etc etc.

we’ve already told school that their staffing problems aren’t our problem as they’re legally obliged to provide x hours per week one on one.

May concern lies in the the future. What after school. He has many of the same traits as me so I hope the green machine would be a good match for him.
 

BratMedic

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Book Reviewer
I scored 9 so I'm not on the spectrum at all, which is probably why my daughter drives me up the wall when she comes round. I'm an expert at diplomacy and biting my lip. As for her very short fuse, well, I've seen her go ape shit if someone stands too close behind her ("FECK OFF OUT OF MY SPACE YOU KUNT!). I reckon her students at Uni tread on eggshells when talking to her. :grin:
 

BratMedic

LE
Book Reviewer
Since my son got diagnosed though it’s struck me how little joe public knows about it.

I took my son out somewhere a few weeks ago and he kicked off. The woman at the counter made some comment about naughty kids. I told her he was autistic and that was whyhe was kicking off. Naturally she thought as I used to that autistic kids sit up the corner and rock
 

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