just how many army marriages do break up?

#1
Just wondering! maybe hitting a sore point with many people here ... but I have come to the conclusion that a good majority of army marriages don't last! I was always under the illuision that (don't bite my head off when I say this) that well squaddies were the players. All i can say as of late i have heard terrible stories of men returning from duty to find their wives have either done a runner or messed about with hubbies mates. Either shacked up with them or just caught bang at it! The mind boggles to think that whilst our lads are serving and fighting in whatever battle for queen and country their wives instead of waiting with home fires burning so to speak are at it like rabbits for queen and country. Well you may ask what made me start this topic? well i'm not a squaddies wife, but i do know plenty, know some may not see their hubbies for months on end! but i was wondering; these women who marry soldiers or anyone in the armed forces, can't be so stupid to know whats what when it comes to their men being posted away for months on end ... it goe's with the territory... we all get bored from time to time! marriage isn't a bed of roses by no means... but it isn't a bed of thorns either. It's what you make it, and I know if the man I loved was away doing his duty risking his life 24/7 .. it would be my duty as his wife (the role no one puts a gun to your head to undertake) to be there for him when he gets home. Do none of these women stop to think that whilst they are shagging the arrse of god knows who, your hubby could be having his brains blown out at that time? Sorry to come across as synical but that would be what i'd be thinking about ... and if it didn't bother me i'd get out before i embarrassed us both. (with dignity, my pride intact and most of all the man i married, but don't want to be with still having his self respect instead of being a laughing stock) just a suggestion. No one deserves the embarrassment! least of all our hero lads ....
 
#3
nightnurse7 said:
Just wondering, maybe hitting a sore point with many people here ... but i have come to the conclusion that a good majority of army marriages don't last! i was always under the illuision that (don't bite my head off when i say this) that well squaddies were the players, but as of late i have heard terrible stories of men returning from duty to find their wives have either done a runner or messed about with hubbies mates .. either shacked up with them or just caught bang at it! The mind boggles to think that whilst our lads are serving and fighting in whatever battle for queen and country their wives instead of waiting with home fires burning so to speak are at it like rabbits for queen and country! well you may ask what made me start this topic? well i'm not a squaddies wife, but i do know plenty ...know some may not see their hubbies for months on end, but i was wondering these women who marry soldiers or anyone in the armed forces can't be stupid to know whats what when it comes to their men being posted away for months on end ... it goe's with the territory... we all get bored from time to time, marriage isn't a bed of roses by no means... but it isn't a bed of thorns either! it's what you make it, and i know if the man i loved was away doing his duty risking his life 24/7 .. it would be my duty as his wife (the role no one puts a gun to your head to undertake) to be there for him when he gets home, do none of these women stop to think that whilst they are shagging the arrse of god knows who, your hubby could be having his brains blown out at that time? sorry to come across as synical but that would be what i'd be thinking about ... and if it didn't bother me i'd get out before i embarrassed us both (with dignity, my pride intact and most of all the man i married but don't want to be with still having his self respect instead of being a laughing stock) just a suggestion .... no one deserves the embarrassment! least of all our hero lads ....


...and breath out........


(Hint. Copy and paste your work in MS Word and allow technology to make it readable or at least easy on the eye).
 
#6
nightnurse7 said:
(honesty is the best policy)
Dostoevsky wrote a book about a man who told the truth all of the time, he called it "The Idiot".
 
#8
Look, I may throw piss around and expose myself in nightclubs, I may do disgusting things with staplers and beermats, but I'm a fucking academic baby!
 
#9
nightnurse7 said:
Praetorian said:
nightnurse7 said:
(honesty is the best policy)
Dostoevsky wrote a book about a man who told the truth all of the time, he called it "The Idiot".
so i take it you read it constantly?
Sarcasm is sometimes wasted on people.
 
#10
Praetorian said:
Just realised I spelt the great mans name wrong!

Look, I may throw piss around and expose myself in nightclubs, I may do disgusting things with staplers and beermats, but I'm a fucking academic baby!

Academic baby? I'd say you're still in the foetal stage. ;)
 
#11
Praetorian said:
Look, I may throw piss around and expose myself in nightclubs, I may do disgusting things with staplers and beermats, but I'm a fucking academic baby!
Yeh and this is cyberland ... next you'll try to convince me your an oxford don ... get a grip.
 
#13
nightnurse7 said:
Praetorian said:
Look, I may throw piss around and expose myself in nightclubs, I may do disgusting things with staplers and beermats, but I'm a fucking academic baby!
Yeh and this is cyberland ... next you'll try to convince me your an oxford don ... get a grip.
Ah, I see. Support Company taking a break from roaring up your shitter?
 
#16
nightnurse7 said:
Just wondering! maybe hitting a sore point with many people here ... but I have come to the conclusion that a good majority of army marriages don't last! I was always under the illuision that (don't bite my head off when I say this) that well squaddies were the players. All i can say as of late i have heard terrible stories of men returning from duty to find their wives have either done a runner or messed about with hubbies mates. Either shacked up with them or just caught bang at it! The mind boggles to think that whilst our lads are serving and fighting in whatever battle for queen and country their wives instead of waiting with home fires burning so to speak are at it like rabbits for queen and country. Well you may ask what made me start this topic? well i'm not a squaddies wife, but i do know plenty, know some may not see their hubbies for months on end! but i was wondering; these women who marry soldiers or anyone in the armed forces, can't be so stupid to know whats what when it comes to their men being posted away for months on end ... it goe's with the territory... we all get bored from time to time! marriage isn't a bed of roses by no means... but it isn't a bed of thorns either. It's what you make it, and I know if the man I loved was away doing his duty risking his life 24/7 .. it would be my duty as his wife (the role no one puts a gun to your head to undertake) to be there for him when he gets home. Do none of these women stop to think that whilst they are shagging the arrse of god knows who, your hubby could be having his brains blown out at that time? Sorry to come across as synical but that would be what i'd be thinking about ... and if it didn't bother me i'd get out before i embarrassed us both. (with dignity, my pride intact and most of all the man i married, but don't want to be with still having his self respect instead of being a laughing stock) just a suggestion. No one deserves the embarrassment! least of all our hero lads ....


This happens in all walks of life although this is totally wrong and i personally believe if you are married then you should stick with your partner for better or worse .

In the army things are so fast track you have some people rushing in to marriage with out thinking when they are really young etc

You have the soldiers away on ops fighting for queen and country and then you have there partners back at home looking after the home and children and this can be quite stress for all the people involved in these situations .

You have to go through these experiences to understand what people are going through . It causes major upset in families and it only years later when people are older and wiser things do actually get sorted out .
 
#17
Hauling the the thread back on topic with the strength of a thousand trains...

Coming from an army family (Don't ya know, toff toff my Great exp31 grandfather was the first bloke out of the landing craft at hastings), my grandad's marriage never broke up. My dad's first marriage did break up, I think due to her playing away from home.

My brother has been happily married for 4 years, and i really cant see her cheating. However, my bro deploys in August to Iraq, so we shall see if anything changes after that.

My dad's boss, an ex Royal Anglian, had been married about 2-3 times during his time in, and some of my dad and brothers friends have had broken marriages.

So in response to the earlier question, I would think that the army does suffer an above average amount of divorces.
 
#18
Relationships either work or they dont.

Military families are probably tested more so than 'normal' families because of the length of time one can be away. If a wife or girlfirend cheats while he is away then she was probably gonna do it anyway 9using his deployment as an excuse). Same with the soldiers.

You either want to be together or you dont.
 
#19
For the first 9 years of my marriage I was in the army and spent as much time away from home as today's squaddies. My marriage was as solid as a rock. After leaving the army I went long distance driving and was away from home 3 or 4 nights a week and my marriage was still solid as a rock and I trusted my wife implicitly. At age 53 I had a heaqrt attck and was subsequently at home 24/7, my marriage crumbled and we were divorced after 27 years. It's not the army that has the problem it's people. After my divorce I was amazed at the number of people who did end up divorced. I think that the thing to say about army marriages is that they do really test couples but some of the strongest marriages I have known have been army ones.
 

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