i have a problem that is half personal and half etiquiette as regards the sgt's mess. i have a mess member who has married a cpl. she (the cpl) thinks that she should be aloud to drink in the the sgt's mess at the end of the working day(as his guest)). i realise that at a function i we have no choice but to let her attend because she is a spouse. but, i don't see any need for her to be in our mess at any other time, especially when her own mess is open. if there is any prescedent for refusing her enrty to my mess then please let me know .