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Im an Alcoholic.. How many other Ex-Army can admit it..??

#1
Its often a taboo subject but Alcoholism is rife amongst Ex/Serving Members of HMF. I spent 7 months on the streets of London after my discharge.. Is Alcohol our coping mechanism when no one else will listen..??
 
#2
It wouldn't surprise me. Raising a family has helped me keep away from copious streams of alcohol, but if it weren't for them I'd be lying in a gutter as we speak. Coping well, no doubt.
 
#3
Dear Mike,
Make the most of what you have got my friend.. My 'Ex' denied me access to my kids on,.. get this.. 'Psychiatric Instability'.. PTSD in laymens terms.. Is it my fault I served Queen & Country Mate..??
 
#5
Its a proper confessional this weekend, three/four booze threads.

Maybe there should be an AA thread

No really a sticky might be a good idea
 
#6
stevedogenddavies said:
well i'm still on the pish every weekend an it never did me any harm.......hic! and the civie's cant keep up! :)
The difference is mate.. I NEED a can to make me me feel able to face the world.. Unless you are/or have been at this stage of Alcoholism then it's difficult to explain mate.. Sorry.
 
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I don't think I'm an alcoholic but I do have a problem with alcohol. I will go without drink or use very little for a period of time (without suffering) then go on a binge*. This will last weeks or months and I will drink like a fish. Then I will sort myself out, stop drinking, start exercising and work on personal projects instead of sitting with a bottle or going to the pub.

There is no apparant trigger for these cycles; I can hold a job down even though I find work boring and I don't suffer from depression. I think a big factor might be boredom or lack of purpose in life. My crap marriage doesn't help either. But I think there is another deeper underlying reason. I can't put my finger on it though.
It is not a simple issue of willpower either.

These cycles have been going on for years - most of my adult life - and I can't help feeling that I could have achieved so much more with my life if I didn't keep falling back into the booze hole. It feels like a constant case of one step forwards and two steps back.

It doesn't help that I have a teenage squaddy hiding somewhere inside my head who emerges quite often when I am pissed. I am not a violent drunk at all but there is a latent streak of wildness and mischief as well as compulsive womanising. The worries about what I have done when I'm pi$$ed compound the problem. I also spend a hell of a lot of cash during these times.

I don't know what the answer is or even why I have posted this, I think that being in the army damaged most of us in some way - even those who really enjoyed the experience. Whether it is fair to blame the army for my drinking I'm not sure.

I am very interested to hear other people's views and experiences.


*I'm not sure binge is the right term but I've used it for want of a better word.
 
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thericecrispiesmademedoit said:
stevedogenddavies said:
well i'm still on the pish every weekend an it never did me any harm.......hic! and the civie's cant keep up! :)
The difference is mate.. I NEED a can to make me me feel able to face the world.. Unless you are/or have been at this stage of Alcoholism then it's difficult to explain mate.. Sorry.


You've taken the first step toward getting yourself sorted, you've admitted you have a problem. Now get in touch with AA they've lived it and are the only ones who fully understand the problem and can help you overcome it. I'm lucky in not having an addictive personality so managed to stop smoking and drinking with no trouble. You need help and you know where it is.
 

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I can, and have done so in other threads. I am an alcoholic, end of. It does not make me a bad person though. Well, in my opinion at least :wink:

I have tried various methods but still move back to the golden nectar. Am I killing myself - yes. Can I stop it - don't know.

I have huge amounts of respect for those that have had the courage, and that is what it takes, to stop drinking. However, I am not there yet.

Rice cripsies - I wish you well.

AY
 
#15
It's incredibly easy to become reliant on alcohol. My cnut comment, which was very quickly culled, was aimed at those that have no problem and dismiss it. Some have a problem getting through the day, or night and alcohol helps.

I overdo it more than I should and its cost me a lot in the past. I'm lucky enough to have a very understanding better half who points out when I should stop. Unfortunately I don't, on my own seem to be able to stop when enough is enough.

Good luck rice crispies, its a tough path to walk and theres no promise of finding an exit.
 

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#16
thericecrispiesmademedoit said:
Auld-Yin,
I would like to shake your hand my friend..

Spesh or Tennants my Friend..??
I have to say neither Crispie. One of my ways of dealing with this is not to join in 'rounds' or when drinking in company I do my own thing. This is accepted by my mates and cuts down on my intake.

I still drink but am not dictated by the speed of others who have the occasional pint at weekends and go for it on a night out.

ARRSE helps a lot 'cos I can join in the banter and be slagged off without having to sit in a pub(NAAFI) with a bunch of guys.

Many people can drink heavily and it does not cause problems. Yet more 'many' can't and don't have that luxury.
 
#17
I would fall into the category of an abuser of alcohol, I think. I have no problem going to the Middle East on business for weeks at a time with no drink. I don't miss it or feel the lack while I'm there.

Yet, when I'm home I'll relax on the sofa with a glass of wine and before I know it, the bottle's empty. I'm not conscious of any drive to polish it off, but if it's there I'll finish it. The wife doesn't drink and regards it as a sign of low-character (a damn good judge, that woman :D ), which puts my own habits in stark relief.

And that's what I think it is - habit. I've always drunk to excess when I've drank. There's no middle ground in squaddie life, you drink to get pished as quickly as possible, not to relax or unwind.

Like JCS I have cycles where drink disappears from my life entirely for no apparent reason, then resurfaces with a vengeance. I haven't experienced any symptoms of PTSD or similar, so I've no idea what the trigger is. Restlessness, perhaps, after a lifetime of doing odd things in uncomfortable places.
 
#18
Luckily 'Ord Sgt' you have a good lady behind you..
I, my friend am a singly who has no one one to kick me up the 'arrse'. I wake up and think to myself.. 'Shall I go for a walk in the park' or shall I just get shi'ite faced again..!!
 
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#19
I'm pure pished now and I love it! Sorry maybe that wasn't the answer you where looking for.
 
#20
thericecrispiesmademedoit said:
Luckily 'Ord Sgt' you have a good lady behind you..
I, my friend am a singly who has no one one to kick me up the 'arrse'. I wake up and think to myself.. 'Shall I go for a walk in the park' or shall I just get shi'ite faced again..!!
I know the feeling. She's a recent, and happy addition. Try and go for a walk in the park and smoke a packet of fags instead.

I know thats easy to say but each moment at a time. It's the only way to face it. The bigger problem seems too big to deal with. A day at a time mate. Try it..... Not every day is a success but each one that is makes you feel great.
 

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