Ok here we go, it may get long! Basically, the husband is posted to Germany for a 3 year posting (currently done 7 months) and for quite a few reasons i wasn't able to go with him. Some of those reasons are, i am unable to fly or travel for longer than 3 hours without sufficent breaks due to having a blood disorder (i have a medical letter declaring this), also after spending 7 months on my own 6 hours away from family whilst he was in Afghan, i didn't want to up and leave all my family again knowing it would be even harder to get home due to the no flight thing. Another reason being our pet dog Staffordshie bull terrier isn't allowed into Germany, which you may say "its only a dog" but to us thats not the case. Also my husband had been told he would be forever away on courses, tours etc and that i would be on my own alot of the time. There are also a few more personal reasons such as my mothers health, where i wanted to be within a fair distance incase she needed me etc etc. So at the minute i am in surplus housing, still away from family, no friends but slightly closer to home. The problem is this and you may laugh, but i am slowly losing the plot. I truely believe the immense pressure on the marriage (we see husband once every 3 months if we are lucky) is causing massive problems for us, i am suffering badly from some kind of being constantly down ( which is not me at all!) and is not good for my health or my babys.I truely believe that if we are apart from each other for the rest of the 3 year posting, then we will no longer be married at the end of it! I need advice please guys. I hate to think the loss my husband feels not seeing his baby and me very often, as its killing me! Many thanks a very miserable mammy!