edit: I have the information I needed, and see no point in leaving my original post up. Thank you, thank you, thank you to those who helped, and to those who sent kind, thoughtful PMs. I'm going to walk away from the computer now because otherwise those ********* who are trying to upset me further might succeed. For what it's worth, chaps, I hope nobody you're close to ever loses a pregnancy. But if they do (and if you even have any self-awareness at all) I hope you'll think back to this thread, and feel a bit f*cking ashamed of yourselves.