What he said. I've seen a couple of ways to handle this. One is publicly asking him if he knows he is having a negative effect on people and maybe causing them to leave.Typically done in the unit bar and if done in a reasonable way and in a reasonable tone in front of people it may work. Then again it may have the opposite effect.I can't help with the situation but the fact that you have taken the step back and not acted impulsively can only be commended. It's a maturity thing as you say, in the past it might've been different. You can gain advice,weigh up probabilities and then decide your course of action. Even if that still is removing him from his consciousness.
What he said. I've seen a couple of ways to handle this. One is publicly asking him if he knows he is having a negative effect on people and maybe causing them to leave.Typically done in the unit bar and if done in a reasonable way and in a reasonable tone in front of people it may work. Then again it may have the opposite effect.
You do have a CoC, your Sergeant and Officer,talk to them and say what you have said on here. If they realise he is having a detrimental effect on their soldiers then they should take steps. That type of soldier is often one of the weakest at leadership and likes to make himself feel important by exercising his power. You may also be reinforcing your CoC's feelings about him if they have already realised this andmay urge them to act.
Finally drop in to the centre during the working day and chat to a PSI to ask advice about a situation with no names or pack drill. They will probably know who you are talking about and will either advise you or do something about it.
Good luck with it.
If none of the above works lurk outside his house with a baseball bat.
OP - how is it that the appointments identified by His Grace, above, don't know what's going on in their unit?You have a Pl/Trp Commander and Sgt, They are your AR command structure. Make them earn their money, rather than going straight to the PSAO or PSI. They have different roles and responsibilities.
In that case you're probably going to lose.
I'd be asking his Sgt for some advice on dealing with 'difficult people' and dropping in " I'm having trouble with the attitude of LCpl X...."
If he's such a massive bellend others will have noticed
Have you thought of pissing in his tea, leaving the biggest turd you can find in his bergen and superglueing his locker.Just seeing what the general consensus is.
There's a JNCO/NCO at my unit, in the reserves, he talks like he's Ant Middleton but comes across like Ross Kemp in Extras, all a bit cringey.
He isn't ex-regs but leads people to think he is, always throws his rank around and pulls weaker members to one side to try and intimidate and belittle them.
Recently we have crossed words. I play the game and give respect but how do I get the message across that I'll rip both arms off and hit him with the soggy ends if he thinks he can talk to me like a piece of shit? Without him pulling rank or me getting into trouble or having to change units or leave as a result of me giving him both unfiltered barrells? Or is it I've got to bend over and take it?
Looking for advice as I've got two speeds, stopped and 100mph and I'm trying to be more tactful and not go in guns blazing. If it were me 2 years ago I'd have thrown my kit in, offered him outside and give him a load of abuse but now I'm trying to think a bit more and not take things personally. Advice from the old heads is the order of the day.
Raising such issues is doing the right thing not 'being a snitch'. Your moral compass is bent.If Covid wasn't an issue at the moment, and it won't always be an issue, I would suggest go looking for him off duty, find out where he drinks.
Offer to get the beers in, chat about everyday things for a while then start talking about your unit.
In a non confrontational way, try and make your concerns known to him.
Butter him up first, compliment him on some of his positive attributes, try and make it sound as though what you are suggesting, i.e., him ceasing to act like a knob, would be in his best interests, and would enhance his prospects for promotion.
Steer the conversation around to what it is you need him to hear, but make it appear as though his future is what concerns you, because he sounds like a Prima Donna.
Do all this in a matey, pally way.
If that fails, you have two choices.
Put up with his behaviour, or risk getting a reputation as a snitch.
My moral compass is not bent, but your comment is confrontational and aggressive.Raising such issues is doing the right thing not 'being a snitch'. Your moral compass is bent.
It says they are straight.My moral compass is not bent, but your comment is confrontational and aggressive.
What does that say about your morals?
My comment was quite clear.
I didn't say Mrsheeny would be a snitch, I said he would have the reputation of being a snitch.