Tommy_Sun
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I don't know how to approach a neighbour - a lady in a wheel chair, well, not really a wheel chair, more a sort of 'utility vehicle'. Damn, I just can't think of a way to describe it.
I noted in another thread how upset I was about her disappearing for a bit - she has been gone since the beginning of the year, so nearly two months now. But now she has suddenly reappeared. Yay..
I pass her house very often, and she is in the same spot, with no friends at all. I think she must lead a very lonely life. I lead a very lonely life, so I can spot the signs. It isn't hard. Her neighbours do not help her. She is always alone.
I would like to knock on her door and just tell her if she needs anything, then I don't mind fetching it for her. And this is why I am such a coward: I am worried about her having to get up off her seat and come and answer the door. I don't want to startle her. It's probably quite a stupid viewpoint that I have. Hence me asking the question. I have talked to her a couple of times before in passing, but I am absolutely sure she does not remember me.
What can I do to approach her? Should I just knock on her door and wait for her to get up to answer? Should I write a card with a small note with my number on it? I really don't know.
I'm just so happy she is back. I really thought the worst had happened. I am hoping she has been on a world cruise and not spent her time in hospital, but whatever, none of my business.
She is a very good humoured lady I must add. She has no self-pity and is pretty normal, with the few interactions I have had with her. Funnily enough, she was getting ready to have an eye test the day I went and got my first set of glasses.
Should I just bite the bullet and knock on her door and wait for her to answer?
I'm about to do some voluntary work, and I will have no problem in being fully checked out and working with vulnerable adults and kids, but she doesn't seem the type to ask for help - she is very self contained - just reading her books every time I pass.
I don't really give a **** about her neighbours, as her neighbours don't seem to give a **** about her. I just want to know what is the correct protocol for doing a totally cold approach like this.
She probably won't remember me with the few interactions we have had, and she may think it strange, a strange man offering to give her help. It is a sad indictment of the society we live in, but there you go...
Perhaps the card through the letter box would be a better option. It would be ideal if I could catch her on her doorstep again, and just pass the time of day. But that is unlikely.
I was really worried about her and I can't tell you how happy it makes me feel to see she is back alive and kicking. I said if she ever came back I would take the leap and contact her.
What should I do? How can I approach this?
I noted in another thread how upset I was about her disappearing for a bit - she has been gone since the beginning of the year, so nearly two months now. But now she has suddenly reappeared. Yay..
I pass her house very often, and she is in the same spot, with no friends at all. I think she must lead a very lonely life. I lead a very lonely life, so I can spot the signs. It isn't hard. Her neighbours do not help her. She is always alone.
I would like to knock on her door and just tell her if she needs anything, then I don't mind fetching it for her. And this is why I am such a coward: I am worried about her having to get up off her seat and come and answer the door. I don't want to startle her. It's probably quite a stupid viewpoint that I have. Hence me asking the question. I have talked to her a couple of times before in passing, but I am absolutely sure she does not remember me.
What can I do to approach her? Should I just knock on her door and wait for her to get up to answer? Should I write a card with a small note with my number on it? I really don't know.
I'm just so happy she is back. I really thought the worst had happened. I am hoping she has been on a world cruise and not spent her time in hospital, but whatever, none of my business.
She is a very good humoured lady I must add. She has no self-pity and is pretty normal, with the few interactions I have had with her. Funnily enough, she was getting ready to have an eye test the day I went and got my first set of glasses.
Should I just bite the bullet and knock on her door and wait for her to answer?
I'm about to do some voluntary work, and I will have no problem in being fully checked out and working with vulnerable adults and kids, but she doesn't seem the type to ask for help - she is very self contained - just reading her books every time I pass.
I don't really give a **** about her neighbours, as her neighbours don't seem to give a **** about her. I just want to know what is the correct protocol for doing a totally cold approach like this.
She probably won't remember me with the few interactions we have had, and she may think it strange, a strange man offering to give her help. It is a sad indictment of the society we live in, but there you go...
Perhaps the card through the letter box would be a better option. It would be ideal if I could catch her on her doorstep again, and just pass the time of day. But that is unlikely.
I was really worried about her and I can't tell you how happy it makes me feel to see she is back alive and kicking. I said if she ever came back I would take the leap and contact her.
What should I do? How can I approach this?