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How shit can life get?
- Thread starter Joker62
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Many moons ago,my dad was diagnosed with throat cancer.Twelve months of chemo at Christie's hospital later,he was taken ill,When i got to the hospital,i was told by a doctor that he had days to live.My dad had thought he was having a voice box operation,so in his mind there was no inevitable ending.I asked the doctor not to tell my dad,so i chatted with my father for a day,then he took ill again,fell into a morphine induced coma,and never came out of it.Sorry to go on a bit,but i;m glad he didn't know.
Union Jack
War hero
RangdoOfArg
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I’m going to respectfully disagree there @Retired bloke. We are all going to fall off our perch, and not enough is really said about it. It’s the great leveller, and the more we stop hiding behind euphemisms and being a bit more open about it the better for all.Don't. He will know, as my father did, We all knew he hadn't long to go, and so did he, There is nothing gained by blurting out the obvious. Make his last days as comfortable as you can, enjoy his company, laugh at his jokes, enjoy and savior his memory. If he mentions the fact that he thinks his days are numbered "Naa pops, you've got years yet, want a brew?" What will happen will happen, spouting out the obvious doesn't help one iota.
Sorry about Fred rift @Joker62 I’ll get back in me box now.
CharlieRomeoAlphaBravo
Old Salt
It's a horrible thing to have to do but you're the one that the family trusts to handle it, that speaks volumes about you. The news may not fully sink in at first but over a few days he will come to realise the enormity of the situation, hopefully the medications he is on will cushion the blow. Expect disbelief and detachment.
I got the news from my GP the day after scans, as in "it looks very like" sort of thing, and it took a few days to sink in that due to the tumour spreading my days are numbered. My head was all over the place for a few days.
Chin up and best of luck.
I got the news from my GP the day after scans, as in "it looks very like" sort of thing, and it took a few days to sink in that due to the tumour spreading my days are numbered. My head was all over the place for a few days.
Chin up and best of luck.
Popped into the hospital on Saturday afternoon to break the news. It didn't go as badly as I thought, he already knew it was bad, just didn't know how bad. Once we got that over with, he left me with a list of instructions and where to find the relevant paperwork. We chatted for a while and I made my excuses. It's one of the hardest things I 've had to do (and I've done and seen some shite stuff in the past including a girlfriend dying in my arms as a result of a RTA 10 seconds after I had left her to go home, heard the thud and saw it happen), but it's done now and just a big clear up left to sort out.
Thanks for all of the advice and comforting words in this post.
@Helm, when it comes to clearing the models out, I'll post them up here (some are worth a fortune apparently, but what do I know?
Thanks for all of the advice and comforting words in this post.
@Helm, when it comes to clearing the models out, I'll post them up here (some are worth a fortune apparently, but what do I know?
Glad it went as well as these things could mate.
Update, I'm.not going back to visit. OH got a phonecall around noon, informed work I'd be leaving and headed off to the hospital. Walked in the ward to see, not the guy I saw last week, but what resembled a Belsen victim. The call said he had hours to live, so obvs rushed over. Arrived around half 2, left at around half 7, still alive, just. I can stand to see this guy in this state so won't.be visiting again, OH is OK with this as its not the bloke.I knew. He's now on comfort care, so morphine and anti sickness stuff. Those who know in RL, know I can deal with this, but inside I'm breaking up. The guy was RAFVR Photo Reconnaissance who flew over Russia in his spare time in V Planes, more of a part time CWW than anyone I know, he has my adoration for.his service.
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nightnurse
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I hope his passing is as pain free and easy as it can be. From your posts I'm in no doubt you will deal with it ,be around to be strong for everybody else and still have enough left to be able to do the sorting out but once all that is done go easy on yourself.
Take care.
I understand mate, we don't let our pets suffer like we do people. Just be there for the OH and vent here.
Smudger2489
War hero
I had to tell my dad, gave permisson for the life support to be switched off and then visit every day till he died.
With Helm on this (see above).
With Helm on this (see above).
Friend of mine was given a big bottle of morphine, for when the pain got bad, and told not to drink too much of it, lest he fell asleep and never woke up.
SONAR-BENDER
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I have to agree with you Joker. I never went to view my Father or Mother or best friend out here, as I preferred to remember them as I did, in life rather than in death.
Works for me.
Well, he passed at 16.50 yesterday, now comes the task of starting to sort out his home. My first job is to catalogue all of his model kits, apparently around 300 of them, and put them up for sale (I'll chuck a list up for them on here for those who dabble). We know where all of the relevant paperwork is so that made things a bit easier. Should have the death cert by the end of the week and can start the ball rolling on the financial side and arranging the funeral.
TBH, the OH took it better than I thought she would, no tears when I met her in the pub last night as she wanted to have a drink with friends in his memory.
TBH, the OH took it better than I thought she would, no tears when I met her in the pub last night as she wanted to have a drink with friends in his memory.
