And don't forget, it is likely that the girls will pick your care home one day.Everything I said in the raising a son thread applies for lasses. In my experience the difference between boys and girls comes down to a few things (massive stereotyping ahead but it's borne out of experience):
Girls bear grudges. Boys can have a fight one day with a bit of bruising and blood and can then be mates two days later. Girls will continue a vendetta for months or years over relatively trivial matters.
Girls love drama. Similar to the above point, two boys will have a bit of a scrap and all of their mates will be there chanting "Fight! Fight! Fight!" but then move on the next day. Girls will continue to niggle and bitch about things that happened weeks ago in the hope of causing more drama to gossip about.
Girls fight dirty. There seems to be an accepted code for most boy fights that consists of "Punch anything you want, no kicks above the waist, headlocks and taking things to the floor are acceptable". Girls are evil, last time it kicked off (not in my room but next door) we were sweeping up chunks of hair and false nails they had ripped off each other.
Girls are much more prone to being anxious about anything and everything. They tend, either by accident or design, to surround themselves with similar types. The bright, level headed girls tend to hang around with others like that and are 'normal'. The drama queens find other drama queens, the rude bitches find other rude bitches etc. The only similar characteristic is a general lack of backbone and willingness to excuse themselves from anything as they are too 'anxious'.
Teenage girls fixate on their appearance to a level most people wouldn't believe. I don't blame them for that, social media is a major part in the demand to look 'perfect'. Boys are 'allowed' to be a bit rough and dirty, girls feel they can't be. Apparently a major bullying issue last year was girls having pubes in PE changing rooms. Not the old 'laughing at the weird kid who still doesn't have pubes at 15' but actively bullying girls who didn't shave everything off. It's a weird world.
Treat them like little adults, admit when you **** up, enforce rules rigidly but fairly and you won't go too far wrong in my experience. Most importantly, for the love of god stop them sending nude pictures to anyone. Have that conversation early and often. It's a lot more widespread than anyone imagines and if they do suck off an unpleasant little oik that only happens the once. Sending naked pictures of themselves, apart from legally being the distribution of child pornography, never goes away and ruins lives on a frequent basis as the pictures that were 'just for her boyfriend' somehow get shared around the entire school when she breaks up with him.
I have two daughters. No 1 has a fantastic personality, she is pretty and she can be fun.............but she can also be an absolute bitch.My youngest is a staff nurse in a dementia and Alzheimer hospital, and has on many occasions threatened to have me sectioned and committed, when she has found out i have been winding up Mrs Sig, or one of her sisters, all said in jest, with an undercurrent of real intent.
Oh, I'm well armed.Oh mate, i would be hot footin to the nearest gun shop, pronto.
I can fully sympathise with your story... that was me, up to aged 12 - my old man then got a posting to Germany, with a return date of Easter of my 'O' level year. Not a great time to be changing schools.Apparently my folks thought about sending me to a boarding school when I was due to go to Secondary - I didn't find this out until I was much older - I so wish they'd had.