How do you deal with 1 civ div(uk)?

#1
I left back in 2006 as a dirty BAT after doing only 5 years, but in the last 4 years I always think about re-joining, I even attended and passed officer selection and had the nod from the Royal Regiment of Scotland for sponsership. But in doing so ended up breaking up my long term relationship with my at the time fiancée as she just couldn't deal with it.
My family hates the idea of me going back with Afghan on the go, but part of me feels it is something I need to do.
So if I don't want to be disowned by my family what can I do?

I've posted this in the NAAFI so you can all take the piss.
 
#3
She was a firey latina lass with a big arse, I dunno what she looks like now as I've moved. But I hope she's gotten ugly.
 
#5
It's your life - live it.

msr
 
#6
Are your family really going to disown you? And anyway who cares, if it's what you want to do, get your bones down to the careers office and stand up for yourself.
 
#11
Considering the fierce competition, if you're good enough to have got the nod for officer training, you're bound to regret passing up the opportunity. I'd be very surprised if your family doesn't fall into line, and if they don't, tough - it's your life, not theirs. Better to regret what you did than what you didn't do.

In addition, if you've got previous service, then you've got a very good idea of what to expect. I'd go back to the green, it sounds very much like that's what you want to do anyway.
 
#14
I was told a third of people re-join. I've been out for 10 years, still miss it, but lifes not right to re-join so looking at other suitable options.
Afghanistan will only last so long, your career will outstretch it by a long stretch I'm sure (Welcome to disagreement if you want, but OPs rarely go on over 20 years, except Banner). Look in your pay packet, check out your pension, look at the cuts being made etc. Then think of that pension by the time your say 45?
Lets face it, it's your life, not your families. If your partner loved that much, she'd stick by you, I'm sure she'd have a good life to.

So man up and get on with it. Monday morning 9am sharp. Make that call.
 
#15
I had a shit commander and an equally shit First Sergeant at my last assignment so let my enlistment run out (1968). Then, forty years later, a former roommate said, "You should have gone to the base reenlistment office and told them you wanted a reenlistment transfer."

"How could I? I'd never heard of such a thing and thanks so much for the timely advice, you prick! I could have been well retired by now without having to spend thirty years answering 9-1-1 calls from the retarded public."

But, while on the job at 9-1-1, I sometimes phoned the local recruiting office to hear the special of the week for prior service personnel. It was usually 'lose your time in grade but keep your stripes, sorry we don't need your speciality this time, etc.' I didn't have that much TIG; I ought to have jumped at it and given my alcoholic boss the short end of a thousand words on my way out the door.
 
#16
I was told a third of people re-join. I've been out for 10 years, still miss it, but lifes not right to re-join so looking at other suitable options.
Afghanistan will only last so long, your career will outstretch it by a long stretch I'm sure (Welcome to disagreement if you want, but OPs rarely go on over 20 years, except Banner). Look in your pay packet, check out your pension, look at the cuts being made etc. Then think of that pension by the time your say 45?
Lets face it, it's your life, not your families. If your partner loved that much, she'd stick by you, I'm sure she'd have a good life to.

So man up and get on with it. Monday morning 9am sharp. Make that call.
I wanted to say something wise and interesting with a little reference to my own reenlistment early last year (after four years out which I spent being a reservist).
But I've got nothing to say that can add anything to what Ex-Donkey said. Apart from that I did join again and had the same things to consider as you did, but you're an adult now and should be able to ballance things out. I certainly did and 've been laughing most of the way since then.

So man up and get on with it. Monday morning 9am sharp. Make that call.
 

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