How did your family take the news?

#1
Ok, so i will be applying for the army in around September (not told family yet), i just wanted to know from previous experience how did your family take the news when you told them you were applying and how did you go about it?
 
#2
Odus said:
Ok, so i will be applying for the army in around September (not told family yet), i just wanted to know from previous experience how did your family take the news when you told them you were applying and how did you go about it?
From a mums point of view.

You have to let your children decide for themselves what they want to do in life.I am always going to be there for both my sons no matter what i will support them.

They are still young,19 and 17 both are now serving and i am extremely proud of them both.Having said that i still miss them like crazy alot of the time.Their choice though,end of.
 
#3
I think my dad will be alot more supportive than my mother. He is an advocat of raising me to be disciplined, respectful and i think he would be proud that i want to serve my country. My mother however said to my brother a couple of years ago she had no problem with him in the RAF or Navy, but not the Army (he went onto working in Asda and is now a manager). She assumes that in the Army, recruits are likely to be beaten and bullied every day then get killed, slightly closeminded of her but she is my mum at the end of the day.

I'm hoping by the time i'm physically fit and ready to apply she will be more supportive of me doing something with my life that she can be proud of me for.

Anyone been in a similar situation?
 
#4
Well, I'm 20 years old, and will be applying next year after I finish college.
I told my mom and she told me not to simply because of how much you get paid for the dangers in you job. I realized that but there was actually an article in the paper yesterday which said Traffic Wardens get paid more than Squaddies.

When a private is enlisted they get paid around $12,525 until Level 1 Private when they get a raise to about £16,500.
Theatre of War: Afghanistan
Dangers include: rockets, mines, suicide bombers
Training: 24 weeks selection

As for Traffic Wardens they get paid around £20,000
Theatre of War: your local neighbourhood
Dangers include: dog poo, pavement cracks, angry drivers
Training: 1 day assessment

It's things like this that have been changing my decision...
 
#5
Its not really about the pay if you are doing a job you want to be doing though right? I'd settle for less money to be doing a job i really want to do. If you are living in the Army, you wont be consuming as much money as you would as a civvie (if im not mistaken), so the pay isnt as bad as it is made out (unless im mistaken which is probably right).
 
#6
My mum was in the R.A.F. my dad was in the R.A.F. and Navy so there chuffed that I'm giving my life to the military :D Don't think my bro is too happy, he thinks I'm wasting my time 8O Generally everyone else thinks I'm doing something useful with my life
 
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jimuk80

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#7
Dad was proud, Mum worried and proud. Only downside is now they nag the fkuc out of me about my training now and i get disapproving looks every time i go near the kitchen. Not sure if they mean well or just want to get shot of me. :)
 
#8
Odus said:
Its not really about the pay if you are doing a job you want to be doing though right? I'd settle for less money to be doing a job i really want to do. If you are living in the Army, you wont be consuming as much money as you would as a civvie (if im not mistaken), so the pay isnt as bad as it is made out (unless im mistaken which is probably right).
I'm not in yet.

But by the time september comes...I won't be put off by that traffic warden bullshit.

That has got to be one of the most bum jobs in the world. No excitment at all.
 
#9
I will bet a pound to a pinch of sh1t that your parents will be as proud as anything at your passing out parade. There may be some initial resistance to you joining (most likely from your mum but not definite). Yet once you are "in" I reckon they will use the full bragging rights that most parents have who have a "child" serving. Parents and grandparents of serving soldiers tend to tell one and all about their little Johnny and what he is doing.*


* Yes ladies this also applies to females that serve, I just could not be arrsed to make my post more PC.
 
#10
Yea i kinda figured they would be against it, but then at the passing out parade they would be proud of me. Right now they are trying to push me into computing jobs. I'm extremely good with computers but its not the life i want. Sitting on a computer all day just isnt exciting to me anymore, i'd rather be running up a mountain with a grand paino strapped to my back. Shame they dont seem to understand that.
 
#11
It's important to let them know that you have been thinking about it for a while and seriously thought about the pros and cons. I am going for Royal Engineers because of the trade aspect which they are fine with. A trip to your local AFCO could be all they need to be convinced this is something you really want to do and not just an impulse decision.

Oh and also it doesn't matter if a traffic warden earns more, it's a lame job 8)
 

ugly

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#12
1981 and my mum drove to ACIO to ensure that I signed on!
 
#13
I joined up straight out of high school, and considering what I'd been involved in before that (a lot of theatre and arts stuff) it came as a bit of a shock to my mum. She only questioned me once as to whether I knew what i was getting into and if I really wanted to - after I'd told her that I did, she was happy with it, as was my dad - they both just wanted to see me happy. 2 years on, they're both happy with the way it's shaped my development, and have commented on the effect it's had with my maturity and ability to handle shitty situations.
 
#14
I told my Dad I was joining the day I left for basic. I also told him I crapped in the front seat of his Cortina and called him a cnut. Never spoke to him again after that and luckily he died a few years later. Poke it fat boy!
 
#15
When I joined, many years ago, my dad was chuffed as naffi breaks, my mum was worried as hell, then she came around (after about 2 weeks when she knew i wasn't coming home) especially at passing out parade.
When my son joined, all i said to him was "sure?" and left it at that, and at his passing out parade I was proud as feck.
 
#16
DummyRound said:
I told my Dad I was joining the day I left for basic. I also told him I crapped in the front seat of his Cortina and called him a cnut. Never spoke to him again after that and luckily he died a few years later. Poke it fat boy!
I like your style! Wish I'd thought to wait and say the same!! My mum and dad have both disowned me now, because I wouldn't listen to them! They wanted me to go into computers or accounting (I'm sh1t with computers and maths) or be like my sister and do a 'worthwhile' job (she's a lawyer :S ). They also said that I'm a lazy bugger (may have used slightly less kind words) and if I wanted to do a 'lazy' job then I could get out of their house (because being in the Army is SO lazy, I can totally understand what they mean) So I did, now I live at my best mates house until basic =P Oh yeah, my mum also had a go at me for being selfish, dunno how she worked that one out =S
Anyway, that's how my parents took it, just hope yours are a bit more 'understanding' =D
 
#18
Narcoleptic_Fish said:
Oh yeah, my mum also had a go at me for being selfish, dunno how she worked that one out =S
Anyway, that's how my parents took it, just hope yours are a bit more 'understanding' =D
She probably meant you are selfish not taking her feeling into consideration. Though it is your life, not hers, so you make the decisions on your future and just have to hope your parents stand by you.

I have mixed feelings on how my parents will take it. On one side i think they will tell me "not to be stupid", to "get a real job" and the "over my dead body" speech. On the other side i think they would be proud of me for taking control of my life and doing something worthwhile. Im not looking for their permission, im looking for their support.

If you live within a 100 mile radius of Livingston, Scotland then you might just hear the faintest sound of me being yelled at the day i tell them.
 
#19
Mr.X said:
My parents want me to go to sixth-form, but i'm intending to join as a soldier. Anyone think A-levels would help?
They would if you don't like life in the Army or return to Civvie Street later on in life. You don't want to be stuck with a load of chavvy munters at the Tesco checkouts do you? Or do you? It doesn't make that much difference, or so I'm told, if you join at 16 rather than 18 anyway, you're not allowed to do as much 'stuff' as when you're 18, so you may as well stay at school for another 2 years and grab some qualifications while you can ;)
 
#20
Narcoleptic_Fish said:
Mr.X said:
My parents want me to go to sixth-form, but i'm intending to join as a soldier. Anyone think A-levels would help?
They would if you don't like life in the Army or return to Civvie Street later on in life. You don't want to be stuck with a load of chavvy munters at the Tesco checkouts do you? Or do you? It doesn't make that much difference, or so I'm told, if you join at 16 rather than 18 anyway, you're not allowed to do as much 'stuff' as when you're 18, so you may as well stay at school for another 2 years and grab some qualifications while you can ;)
Hmmm,wonder if the chavy munters at the checkouts think that about the tw*ts they have to serve all day.

You do plenty of 'stuff' when you are under 18 :roll:
 

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