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Honest answer please, it's the only thing holding me back

#1
Hi all,

I'm new on here, please be gentle with me...

I'm a 28 year old female and have been wanting to follow a military career for a few years but have had other commitments and have not felt mature enough to take on this responsibility.
I am now really wanting to join but am very aware that by the time I have completed the application process etc I could well be nearly 30!!
I know I've left it a bit late but I suppose I just forget how old I am as I still think I'm 23 or so but finally ready to make the step.
I am looking at CMT, HCA or Dog Handler.

I am worrying as the majority of recruits are going to be a lot younger, will I fit in? I have been told that my superiors, who will be nearer my age won't be my friends as the ranks don't mix?
Please help, I want to follow my dream but I don't want to get there and then be a lonely old recruit :(

Thanks in advance.
 
#2
Hi all,

I'm new on here, please be gentle with me...

I'm a 28 year old female and have been wanting to follow a military career for a few years but have had other commitments and have not felt mature enough to take on this responsibility.
I am now really wanting to join but am very aware that by the time I have completed the application process etc I could well be nearly 30!!
I know I've left it a bit late but I suppose I just forget how old I am as I still think I'm 23 or so but finally ready to make the step.
I am looking at CMT, HCA or Dog Handler.

I am worrying as the majority of recruits are going to be a lot younger, will I fit in? I have been told that my superiors, who will be nearer my age won't be my friends as the ranks don't mix?
Please help, I want to follow my dream but I don't want to get there and then be a lonely old recruit :(

Thanks in advance.
Hello there,

I am quite the oppesite as I am very young and I was told that as I am young there is going to be alot of people older than me in training, In your situation I wouldnt worry about it at all like the army is really strict on having respect for everyone i.e coloured,race,sexuality etc witch I have no problem with and I dont think for a second that people will ignoure you cause of your age, if I was in your reg id talk to you ha,
I wouldnt worry about it at all,
I wish you the best of luck in your future, its a persons personailty a normal person looks for in other people not there colour and all that not your age! :)
Paul
 
#5
Thanks Paul,

I would gladly be friends with anyone regardless of age etc so that makes me feel a bit better.
I've just read a few posts and have found 3 other people who joined at my age so at least I'm not alone...

Good luck for your intake in March, I bet you can't wait!

I will start my application process in the New Year now I can get over my age phobia lol!
 
#6
i recently passed selection and we got to talk to some soldiers in training and one of them was a 32 year old woman in a troop of alot younger women, you just get on with it, it does not matter about your age.
 
#7
i recently passed selection and we got to talk to some soldiers in training and one of them was a 32 year old woman in a troop of alot younger women, you just get on with it, it does not matter about your age.
Sorry but I think it does matter about your age. I know the age limit has been changed (IIRC it used to be 28) but remember that the majority of people who join are under 21. Your contemporaries, therefore, will be almost 10 years younger than you. By the time you finish training, most people of your age will be in, or about to enter, the Sgts Mess. By the time you are approaching that heady step up, most of the service people who joined up will be coming up to retirement.
You have to think "will I be happy socialising and working with people who are some 10 years younger than me and probably have a different lifestyle". For example, 18 and 19 year olds are probably more interested in who is No 1 in the charts (do they still have those?) and what the latest fashion is. You will probably be wondering if your biological clock is running down or whatever. And also remember, age catches up quickly. Will you be able to compete against the 19 year old whippets? You are coming to an age when you will be given extra time on your BFT (or whatever they call it now) because of your age. Will you really want to struggle on fitness tests compared with the (much) younger athletes?
Sorry, I think you should have thought about this a bit sooner, like 5 or more years ago at least.
Hope this doesn't burst your bubble but it's not really about whether people will talk to you or not, it's really more about what you have in common with your contemporaries. The Army people tend to stick together by rank, that is true, but it's more to do with their ages being similar, rather than the rank thing (amongst the ORs). For example, I was 35 as a WO2. Someone I had known for a long time only got to Corporal at that age but I still socialised with him to an extent. I virtually never socialised with the 26 year old Corporals.
 
#9
Sorry but I think it does matter about your age. I know the age limit has been changed (IIRC it used to be 28) but remember that the majority of people who join are under 21. Your contemporaries, therefore, will be almost 10 years younger than you. By the time you finish training, most people of your age will be in, or about to enter, the Sgts Mess. By the time you are approaching that heady step up, most of the service people who joined up will be coming up to retirement.
You have to think "will I be happy socialising and working with people who are some 10 years younger than me and probably have a different lifestyle". For example, 18 and 19 year olds are probably more interested in who is No 1 in the charts (do they still have those?) and what the latest fashion is. You will probably be wondering if your biological clock is running down or whatever. And also remember, age catches up quickly. Will you be able to compete against the 19 year old whippets? You are coming to an age when you will be given extra time on your BFT (or whatever they call it now) because of your age. Will you really want to struggle on fitness tests compared with the (much) younger athletes?
Sorry, I think you should have thought about this a bit sooner, like 5 or more years ago at least.
Hope this doesn't burst your bubble but it's not really about whether people will talk to you or not, it's really more about what you have in common with your contemporaries. The Army people tend to stick together by rank, that is true, but it's more to do with their ages being similar, rather than the rank thing (amongst the ORs). For example, I was 35 as a WO2. Someone I had known for a long time only got to Corporal at that age but I still socialised with him to an extent. I virtually never socialised with the 26 year old Corporals.
Thanks for your reply, I'm taking everything on board.
I think I'll be OK keeping up with the fitness, I have the determination of a bull. I know that there will be parts that I will struggle with at some point but doesn't everyone have something they struggle with? I know I am a lot fitter than a lot of girls 5 or 6 years younger than me, can't vouch for the boys, sorry.
I regret not having done it years ago but if I don't do it now I'll never know...
I see what you mean by the 'fitting in' I can normally get on with any age group as I've always worked with a variety of people.

Thanks for your honesty

C
 
#10
I believe it does matter how you feel and if you think you could do it then go for it.I personally believe age is just a number,however your motivation will matter a lot.But is just a personal opinion.
 
#11
Go for it, I know a guy who joined at 33, he is married and has 2 kids. He was actually fitter than everyone else in the squad, so age means nothing. I had another friend who joined later in life and also being married and had 2 kids. He got banged up when he was younger and had to wait a certain time before he joined, he said to me that he'd rather join now at his age than to never try and always wonder 'what if'.

I joined a bit later in life also and so far I have found age to be almost irrelevant.
 
#12
I believe it does matter how you feel and if you think you could do it then go for it.I personally believe age is just a number,however your motivation will matter a lot.But is just a personal opinion.
Should be set on stone mate welll said ,

and thank you littlemissc I am indeed very excited ha im sure youl be the same
all the best
 
#14
Thanks all for being so helpful and honest.
I'll take the good with the bad and I know it will be tough but I'd rather try and fail than not try at all...
At least now I know that I might not be so old after all ;)

Take care and good luck to everyone on the future intakes and those already serving. I hope to be there with you once I'm in.
 
#15
I joined at 26, didn't hinder me at all, was actually an advantage as I had already lived away from home and had life experience unlike some of the little grot bags that were in my training platoon.
 
#16
An ex-girfriend's dad joined the infantry at 26 as a private after a failed first marriage and finished his 22 yrs as a Lt Col in the same regiment. He said that being 5 or 6 years older than the rest of his intake was a positive advantage and his maturity stood him in good stead.
 
#17
I was 27 when I joined the Army, I was the oldest in our troop by 5 years but quickest in runs, marker for tabs etc.

I did have the head start of having joined the RAF when I was 17 mind you, but I'd been out for 4 years when I re-joined the Forces.

I didnt have the dramas of homesickness and financial immaturity when I joined the Army plus no-one attempted wideboy business, which I went through a wee bit at 17.

Go for it, you'll be far better equipped than you realise.
 
#18
what ive seen on the ta base i dear say you will be better able to cope than the younger people also if your going for cmt your age will help to better praper you for the possible shock that working in the medical profession dose so often bring go for it and enjoy it
 
#19
Good answers, thank you.
I believe I will fare better in the things such as not getting homesick and being an Adult who has life experience.
Now that I have seen that older people have joined and done just as well or even better than some younger candidates gives me a big push to get my application started as soon as I get my Citizenship.

Thanks all.
 
#20
Good answers, thank you.
I believe I will fare better in the things such as not getting homesick and being an Adult who has life experience.
Now that I have seen that older people have joined and done just as well or even better than some younger candidates gives me a big push to get my application started as soon as I get my Citizenship.

Thanks all.
You are definately not alone in respect to being a late joiner, i was the oldest out my intake and tbh it did'nt affect me in the slightest, your preparation, approach and attitude is just as important as your focus towards fitness & keeping up with the young ones, i agree you will fare better in respect to being homesick and to be fair (IMO) you'll be that focused on training and 'completing it' then you'll probable end up rising above many other factors also

Good luck with whatever career path you choose but one bit of advice is choose your what specific area carefully with a strategic element in mind although i understand focusing on training will be your first priority

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