stackerhacker said:
Can anyone help me to find out what Iâm entitled to?
My fiancé and I are both serving soldiers, she is pregnant and we are both over the moon but donât want to get married just yet. Iâve managed to get a posting closer to her about a month before sheâs due to drop, any help welcomed!
Many Thanks in advance.
Firstly congrats on the news of your forthcoming fatherhood,
But as far as your entitlements goes it pretty much adds up to sweet fcuk all, my advice would be:
I know you have said that you both dont wish to marry just yet, which is depending on someones point of view is something you should do as you are both entering into parenthood, however this is the modern tree hugging 2007 attitude of there is no need for it.
But the Army does not see it that way, so why not,(just an idea) as cheaply as possible by just get married at a registras in your jeans and 't' shirt(no frills) and get the certificate that the Army wants, get a pre-nuptual agreement done up with a solicitor stating that niether is entitled to fcuk all if you get divorced etc etc, so in theory there is minimum commitment.
The whole thing would have a minimum cost but you get that all important certificate, and then get the full entitlement to live and be treated as one unit by the Army, and recieve all the other financial perks when un-accompanied etc.
If it all fails you both walk away and just end up as one of the many other divorced single parent statistics, however if in the future you both decide to make it a more formal relationship then all you do is have the big fancy wedding thing and have your vows blessed with all the white wedding b0ll0cks etc etc.
I believe that the Army is in the dark ages when it comes to what is a life commitment etc etc But I do also see the reasoning behind having clear guidelines, but doesnt say for example a couple who have been together for over 10 years, have 2 kids a morgage etc not show a commitment, but in the eyes of the Army they would have to get married before they would recognise there commitment.
Apoligies for the long explanation and I know it doesnt really answer your question, but its just an idea.